Please don't tell me because God says so. I think it's a shame that people just can't be with each other without having to get a peace of paper that says they love each other. I mean if you love that person, you know that you love them..right?? do you think that weddings are just for women to feel special and that is why people have them? I guess some men want to be invovled in the wedding, but most could care less about flowers and stuff like that...get me? Please I want to know your views on this topic. thanks.
2007-11-28 18:14:10 · 16 answers · asked by Road House 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"peace" of paper - "there" love - "could care less" -
geezus i haven't seen that much hillbilly stupidity crammed into one paragraph since "Coal Miner's Daughter"
why couldn't you work in "y'all", "stump jumping", "peckerwood", and "cement pond"?
2007-11-28 19:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the wedding so much as the piece of paper... that thing has a lot of legal power and benefits.
Living together as a couple for "X-amount of time" makes you common-law married in most states.
You can be saddled with the other person's debts.
If the other person dies, you don't have the ability to collect the life insurance, and if the other person is on life support, you don't have the ability to pull the plug... yet you can be held responsible for all the hospital bills.
Living together certainly doesn't get you out of paying child support.
So by "living together" you have all the risks and none of the benefits.
Divorces are relatively cheap.
2007-11-29 02:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's "just a piece of paper" why do so many people feel so strongly against getting it?
If it "means nothing" then why not just go ahead and give your significant other their "special day" and just sign?
Not getting married works for a lot of people, but there are those that like the security of declaring their forever bond to one another. There are those that like the distinction of being a "wife" instead of just another "girlfriend". After all, that piece of paper means nothing to you right? If it's so trivial, go ahead and give in.
There is a never-ending list of financial reasons, medical reasons and emotional reasons why being married can be beneficial. Legalities differ from state to state but the power of a "spouse" is just simply more than the power of a "partner".
So no, you do not "need" a legal document in order to be in love with someone forever. But if you truly are planning on spending the rest of your life with her, working through everything that life throws your way, being there in sickness and in health; then why not let her have the small joy of being able to call you her husband?
2007-11-29 13:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For many years my husband(then boyfriend) and I said the same thing about marriage being about the piece of paper. The longer we were together the more we felt the need to validate our commitment to each other and we yearned to be husband and wife. I wanted his last name. I was to be Mr. & Mrs. M--- ----n--! I just woke up one morning and realized that it was about commitment and dedication to each other. It is like it makes your relationship just more "official" and it also enables you guys to get medical insurance through one's job and other benefits as well. For legal reasons, too. Had one of us died then the other may have possibly been left fighting the family members for assets and belongings that, as the spouse, we should legally and morally be entitled to. I never wanted a fairytale wedding at all. I never dreamed of this HUGE day filled with white doves and thousands of roses. I dreamed of a fairytale marriage and that is what we have. I think marriage is a beautiful thing and I would do it again in a minute for all the right reasons and the wrong ones....I love marriage. *It also doesn't make it that easy to just walk away!!!!!! LOL*
2007-11-29 02:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is about sharing your love and letting everyone know about the love you have for each other. It's like a piece of paper saying that your love is legally acknowledged and if anything ever happened to one of you then the other has legal claim to your possession with being contested. But most importantly it is a huge celebration of the love that both of you have for each other and is a document to say that you will be each others witnesses for the rest of their journey for the rest of their life.
2007-11-29 02:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by ACM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing it protects each other in case of death; or in some cases divorce. without that LEGAL piece of paper you can easily end up with nothing. a wedding and being legally married are two different issues; yes a wedding makes you special for the day; but if you just want to be married you can go to the court house and not have a "wedding" but just get married.
2007-11-29 02:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think quite often marriage ruins relationships. I know it felt like that for me. Once we got married, he changed.
With our culture today, I believe, more and more people AREN'T getting married and they are just cohabiting. That is what I would do if we had it to do all over again.
I think alot of times, people judge others if they are unmarried and have children and/or live with a significant other. That is how women are to other women anyway. That is why women go running to the alter I think most times. Guys are opposite. "you are married? I am so sorry to hear it!" That would be a guy's response to another guy.
It is a hard question.
2007-11-29 02:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A piece of paper" if treated as only that will not make any difference. A committment to journey through life with that one person and taking a vow to do so is what makes marriage different than living with someone. You are telling the world, and each other, that your love will be strong enough to make it through the ups and downs that life presents.
My wedding was quite simple and was for the two of us; not just for me. We wrote our own vows but we did not get married in haste; in fact, lived together for 6.5 years before making a committment as strong as marriage.
2007-11-29 07:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that piece of paper is what get's them 50% of the marital assest in a court of law...without that piece of paper all you have is air.
2007-11-29 05:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I wouldn't need to, except that the governments of the US and Germany both say we do - if we want to be able to live together for more than 90 days at a time, and both be allowed to work, that is.
2007-11-29 02:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mich 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage symbolizes devotion and commitment. When you vow to spend your life with someone, it means a lot. It is a way to show your feelings rather than just using words.
2007-11-29 02:21:19 · answer #11 · answered by Brianna's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋