After 12 years of marriage and two beautiful kids, I think i'm ready. We have been through sooooo much most marriages wouldn't of survived this roller coaster ride. From a very loving relationship to a resentful one. We've been through poverty too many times due to his lack of motivation and aspirations and that's just it! I want someone who can support us. I'm tired of struggling and me always putting 110% to hold our lives together, including working 2 1/2 jobs, while he has been saying for years that he needs to get his H.S. Diploma or GED...come on you think?? we lost our home already when we own a house and been practically evicted from two rentals. Is it wrong of me to be fed up and want to leave him because he just doesn't make enough money to support the family???,,...but my kids they are 8 & 13 and he is so loving with them. Anyone????
2007-11-28 18:00:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes people just can't live together anymore. There is no point in killing yourself over it. You tried and made it work for a long time. Don't feel bad. The positive thing is that he is a great father. You know that you won't have to worry about that aspect of it. At some point, you have to think of how you feel instead of what it will do to him or the kids. Kids are resiliant. They will learn to cope with it. You two can try to maintain friendship for them. Tell you husband you can't do it anymore, maybe he will try to change otherwise, you have to move on with your life.
God Bless.
2007-11-28 18:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer the question. It might be an idea to refine the question a bit first.
Are you considering ending the marriage because he doesn't make enough money? Or is it because he's not even trying to get an income going?
Please keep in mind that lack of motivation can sometimes be a sign of clinical depression--not in the least unlikely for an unemployed and unskilled guy living in poverty.
2007-11-28 18:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is loving with your kids, then he may not be a bad man. Just a man who is going through a real bad time in his life.
Money is not one of the most important thing in life. I have supported my family for the last five years. I have accepted my role. I think that is important. Your acceptance of the circumstances.
Pain happens when there is an expectation mismatch. Smile through your misery and believe me things will begin falling into place.
I attended one workshop where the psychologist said -- what is your child seeing -- a smiling you or a sulking you? What image of you and your partner do you want your children to retain?
I think you sound like a wonderful family together. Just garner enough strength to pull through these times.
2007-11-28 18:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by babasbhakta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can keep seeing the kids but you need to start thinking about your own happiness. Besides think about the kids too. Do you want them to go through this again? You lost your home, were evicted twice!! Your kids didn't deserve that!
You should move out and take the kids with you. You can do better without someone constantly pulling you down.
2007-11-28 18:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a mother you should always want the best for your children and for you, and right now you have a man that cant provide for you and doesnt seem very motivated to do so. so its best to take the kids and get a better life for them and you and tell your husband that is allowed to see them when he wants.
2007-11-29 03:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy, take a break... don't jump into a divorce.
While you are on a break, and you feel like you have had a ton of weight lifted off your shoulders, you should probably discuss the "D" word...
2007-11-28 18:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Love Life <3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is not holding up his end of the bargain. I would have left long ago. I would leave. Let him take care of himself instead of you doing it. Good luck.
2007-11-28 19:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking this then yse you should.
if you were happy with your life then u woudlnt be askign this now would u
2007-11-28 18:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must honor your wedding vows. Remember them? For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer until death do us part.
2007-11-28 18:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
if u lov him... n cant live without him.. then dont.. if u stl can live witout him.. then yes.
2007-11-28 18:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by honeygirl h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋