last week he found out i chatted with a guy friend, he was angry because i did not tell him that i chatted for 1 month n not telling him. we've been together for 5 years.. i once went for a drink with a guy fren n did not tell him untill he found out. he just cant accept me again for hiding things from him. we already discussed this n he said he cant accept for being a liar. he said he does not love me again just because of this. i am so sorry n he knows i love him n not cheating on him but the fact of me lying to him is the matter that he said he cant accept it. please tell me how do i win him back. please...
2007-11-28 17:46:22 · 10 answers · asked by honeygirl h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People always say it's the lying, but really, it's the cheating. If you lied about how much you paid to get your hair done, he wouldn't give a crap.
If you have been together 5 years, I assure you he has done much worse than you described. You just don't know about it, which is why he feels comfortable being all upset about what you have done.
I assume he is the jealous type, so that if you DID tell him that you had a drink with a friend, he would make your life hell. Well that's why you didn't tell him, so it's not totally your fault.
If he actually does want to be with you and does love you, then he will probably settle down soon enough and you can get back together. Make sure you really want to be with someone so controlling.
But he may just have been looking for an excuse to leave. So he's not actually upset, he's happy that he caught you in something that you shouldn't be doing.
However, he may soon realize the error of his ways, and might also decide that he wants you back.
Again, be sure that this is what you really want.
I hope I have given you a couple of things to think about.
People are human. Sometimes they make mistakes, do things that they shouldn't do. They are weak, lonely, sometimes just need a mental lift, or to relax. You can't expect your partner to be perfect, neither of you. Everybody does their best, and if you make mistakes, you try to fix them. He needs to realize this, or he can never be happy.
2007-11-28 17:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really bad..well people really has different tolerance to things or acceptance..some can accept a cheating spouse but some could not even accept lies...it's kind a hard to win back trusts...just continue on showing him that you love him...5 years was such a long time to just be dumped in a trash bag...hope you gain his trust again..i don't really know the answer to your question...
2007-11-28 17:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by justME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You betrayed his trust it takes more than "I am sorry" to make amends for that. You lied and you hurt your boyfriend. You don't deserve him. You don't take someone for granted that you've been with for 5 years. You were acting like a unattached woman and how do you excuse that? I tell my boyfriend where i'm going because I respect him. You don't respect your boyfriend. If you did, you would have thought about how you were making him feel. He needs you to give him space. Leave him alone. Tell him when he is ready to talk you are ready to listen. I suggest professional counseling. That will show him that you really want to change. I wish you well.
2007-11-28 18:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 08:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with a guy who lied about virtually everything.
It's really tiring being with someone who can't tell the truth...
If you are having issues with telling the truth, perhaps get some help for the problem.. there are resources for help out there... You really need to start being more honest.... and honest with yourself, too.
Perhaps you're not that interested in this "boyfriend" since you talk with other guys and have drinks with them? Thnk about it... is this boyfriend who you want? Really?
If not, let him go... and stop putting him through so much agony.
2007-11-28 17:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust, I will tell you this: once trust has been broken it takes a very long time for trust to be rebuilt. Have you ever heard the expression "Rome wasn't built in a day"? Neither was trust and you blew your trust by lying to him.
2007-11-28 17:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I slapped my GF same reason and never accepted her back.
Tell him, everyone deserve a second chance. If you thing you love him, do not let it go-keep trying and do not do this anymore.
He has already develop hatred and going to need some time to cool off.
2007-11-28 17:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by JH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would he believe you didn't cheat when you lied to him?
As far as im concerned if you lied and saw someone behind his back you may as well have slept with him.... its just as dishonest and disrespectful.
And by the sounds of it your boyfriend thinks the same....
2007-11-28 17:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by L L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i hate to tell you this but he might never forgive you for what you have done the same thing happened to me with my girl about 6 months ago and i will never trust her again once you lie to someone that had full trust in you, its over they will NEVER trust you again they my forgive but not forget as i have with my girl i forgave her but i dont trust anything she tells me you really messed up on that one
2007-11-28 17:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop lying to him and prove him that you have changed. The relationship has to be based on honesty. What were you thinking???
2007-11-28 17:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋