Is this appropriate for conversation?

Question

I am friends with a middle aged couple. Lately I've noticed that they're being more open with their sex lives. I.e: one night the three of us were sitting around and the husband started talking about working on the roof. His wife then told him that she didn't want him to work on the roof because she was afraid he would fall and hurt himself. She then made the comment that she wasn't ready to switch to mechanical devices. She then looked at me and said, "I prefer the real thing." Her husband then said, "Oh, she doesn't want to go out and get a vibrator." I didn't expect that to be said. Later on, they did some adjusting to their bed room. Then I noticed that a painting was hanging too high above the bed. I asked about it, and he told me that there might be a reason that they painting is so high (it's outta the way for when they have sex). I'm 23 years old and abstinent (a virgin). Is this moral for conversation? I'm not used to it because of my life style, they know I live.

Answer 1

They probably want a 3some with you!

Answer 2

They have evidently misread your demeanor somehow and believe it is acceptable to comment on personal matters. That doesn't mean you have done anything to encourage them, they may just be comfortable around you and don't realize that you object to sexual innuendos in conversation. It is seldom easy to resolve this kind of problem, you could try taking the female friend aside and privately telling her that it is embarassing for you when they make personal comments. Make it sound as if you have a problem with it, rather than that they are at fault. Or if anothe similar comment is made, just laughingly put your hands up and say something like ...Wait a minute I just don't need to hear this...TMI...and quickly change the subject or back out of the room in a joking way...hard to pull off for some. Your other choice is just not to visit with them by yourself...there is safety in numbers.

Answer 3

I personally would be offended and don't really think that people should discuss there private lives (as a couple) like this.
Sure I might discuss personal issues with a girlfriend (best friend) however I wouldn't find it proper to add my husband into the conversation.

I have excused myself and chose not to call people because of this.

My mother always taught me you have but one name and that name follows you forever, whom you choose to associate with will also be linked to you and your name.
(Hoping that made sense)

People seemed to be more relaxed in today's society and seem to think its okay to talk about anything and everything....desensitized.
Fun and relaxed doesn't have to equal distasteful and perverse.


best wishes

Answer 4

Hmm. This is very difficult.. Everyone has their own standards for what is acceptable conversation, and waht is not acceptable conversation. That is just them! Instead of focusing on whether they were right or wrong, just think in terms of "was it right FOR ME, or was it not right FOR ME?"
If you didn't feel right around them when they talked like that, you might want to send a friendly vibe out that their topic is a little shocking, and cover your ears, but not in a rude way., if they don't get our hint, just don't hang out with them anymore...

Answer 5

Some people are more open about their sexuality. It sounds like they are trying to be funny, but really they are just being gross. You being a virgin is irrelevant. It is not rude to tell them you don't want to hear anymore... that's the reaction most people would give.

Answer 6

Were you offended? Did you object? Did they use foul or obscene language?

If any of those answers are "yes", you may want to choose different friends. After all, friends--unlike a spouse--is optional and supposed to be fun, right?

Answer 7

YOU NEED TO FIND NEW FRIENDS. THESE PEOPLE ARE MUCH TO OLD FOR YOU RIGHT NOW. YOU ARE NOT IN THERE PLACE YOU ARE A VIRGIN. MORE LIKELY THE ARE GOING TO MESS YOU UP EMOTIONALLY WHEN YOU ARE READY TO HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS. I WOULD HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. STAY WAY THE SOUND LIKE BAD NEWS AND THE ONLY ONE GOING TO GET HURT IS YOU. YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY THIS WAY. TOO MUCH FUTURE DRAMA. RUN.

Answer 8

Some people kid around a lot about this kind of thing and some don't. If you don't then don't hang around people who do this.

Answer 9

some people are ignorant and don't have anything else to talk about.. their worlds are small and they are apparently uneducated....

if you want to continue seeing these people, be my guest. i would not.