Do you believe yourself when you think that you are good looking or do you only believe it when someone else..

Question

tells you that you are good looking.
Does that make sense? its kind of a wierd question.
But its about how we sometimes need other people to validate ourselves.

Answer 1

I don't know if I am addressing the question properly, but here's how it is with me.

I am half-Arab, so I look kind of exotic to most people, especially where I live, which is really a pretty white bread area. People tell me all the time that I am stunning. They tell my husband and my mother and my friends that all the time, too. My personal feeling is that what they perceive as stunning is simply the fact that I am different and look sort of exotic to them, not that I actually am nice looking.

I have always envied beautiful women, because I think every woman wants to be beautiful. I know I have some nice features--my skin tone is really a nice color, and very even. I have those brown eyes that look like they are black. I have a fairly full mouth and the natural color of my lips is an okay color. However, I am a realist. When I look in the mirror, I see someone who is plain, meaning just an average Jane. I know good looking when I see it, and I don't see it when I look in the mirror.

With all that said, I don't believe it when someone says I am good looking. I know my husband thinks I am a goddess, but that's because he loves me so much. I have seen pictures of some of the women he dated before he met me, and sometimes I really cannot believe he married me because he dated a lot of really hot women. So when he gives me that validation, I take it for what it is--he loves me, so to him I am beautiful. As for other people, I try to be gracious when they compliment me, but my belief in my own head is that what they perceive as stunning is simply the fact that I am so different from what they are used to, not that I am actually good looking.

The upside is that because I am a realist about how I look, I don't really crave that validation so much. As I said, I am gracious when people compliment me, but I think I have a better understanding of what they are attracted to than they do. In all honesty, what I missed in the beauty department, I got back, with interest, in the brains department. And that's just fine with me.

Did any of that make any sense at all?

Answer 2

usually someone will say your good looking as an opening line or a pickup line ... and it really all depends on the situation ... some women need hours to make themselves look beautiful where in a more natural sourrounding ...like weekends at home doing housework or gardening they're just ordinary people .... it who you are inside that counts and if you like who you are regardless of how you look that's all that's important ... and I should know ... I got a head like a robbers dog ... but I'm happy with the person that I am :)

Answer 3

you're right, we've all been guilty of needing others to validate ourselves, tho it's not a healthy habit. depending on who the person is who compliments me and how they say it, i may or may not believe them. but i think i'm a good looking person, FAR from the line of being conceited...however, i do have days when i think i look like crap and it might make me feel better when someone says i look good

Answer 4

being good looking is ONLY a state of mind. if you think you are cute, then you are cute.

Plain and simple.


Proof. Many people can tell someone they are very pretty, and she might be physically attractive to the majority of outsiders sho see her, but if she shes herself as ugly and fat..she will be ugly and fat.

Answer 5

i am 41 years old and i look to be about 24. I have had people tell me all my life that i am "cute" but never have i been told i was beautiful.

I feel cute and when i look at myself in the mirror, i see cute, not beautiful.

so, i guess, to answer your question, when you hear something enough, you tend to believe it.

Answer 6

I think its important to believe yourself when you tell yourself you are good looking, because believing in yourself is essential for positive self esteem, and good karma

Answer 7

how can you say that you are good looking when nobody say so. well, it's only part of the proof that u are really good looking.. but it's the way how you look at yourself. when you think that you are good looking..then you are. and when you dont..then it'll reflect to your appearance.

Answer 8

Self-confidence is all that matters but not over self-confidence.. If ppl tell de same it boosts even more.. But really, I dun think much abd such stuff.. :)

Answer 9

I only think I'm good looking when i'm having a good hair day.

Answer 10

I sorta believe it more when other
people tell me.