how can i see myself as others see me?

Question

im a tomboy by nature and most of my life i have done what people call a"mans job." even now i drive an 18 wheeler for a livin.women have always been very offish to me and men always wants to jump my bones,both are not the way i would like to be treated. i want to blend in more and not stick out like a sore thumb.i think if i could understand the way people see me i could get the results i have wanted all my adult life

Answer 1

dont' change who you are. if you do, you'll become lost in a path where you can't decide whehter you want to be free wtih who you are, or trapped under the judgement of others. i personally like a tomboyish nature better than a high class stereotypical "prep" girl, just because they tend to be more....into going with the flow of life, instead of concentrating on the smallest things.

if i can learn to like, there probably are others out there too. give people a chance before you decide something big, like changing your personality so people won't look down on you. look stragiht back up at them, because you have no reason to hide your face from humanity

i'd much rather stick out like a sore thumb then blend in with something that's not me.

Answer 2

Who cares what others think of you? Just be yourself. Being self-conscious is at least half of feeling like you're "sticking out." If you're less self-conscious, you'll have more confidence in who you are and thus will be more comfortable around those who currently make you feel like a sore thumb.

BTW I'm not very well qualified to give advice on either love or careers, but I imagine trucking probably isn't the best profession to be in if you're looking for a man who doesn't just want to "jump your bones." You should keep trucking if that's what makes you happy though. Avoid guys you meet at work or in truck stops. For better odds of meeting a nicer guy, try doing some volunteer work for something you believe in like a charity or political campaign. Think of the type of guy you want to meet (keep it realistic!), then think of where you might meet such a guy.

Answer 3

Humans, by their nature, classify things on sight. Humans are afraid or apprehensive around things they can't figure out, so we immediately, by instinct, put people into groups & give them names that aren't necessarily accurate based on what we know about them. The more we know, the more accurate we are, but most people don't put forth the effort to know more. You drive a truck, so people think they have you figured out. The guys find you appealing because you're "one of the guys" and they think they have a better chance of getting laid with you. The girls think you're a lesbian so they're standoffish around you because they're worried you'll hit on them (silly girls don't have lesbians figured out either). The long & short of it is, if you don't want to stick out like a sore thumb, you'll have to either not drive a truck for a living, or be really girly with everything else so people don't notice your job.

Make it harder for them to pigeonhole you, or defy the pigeonhole to the point that people not longer think they've got you pegged on sight.

Answer 4

Why do you want to blend in? Why is the nature of who you are so uncomfortable to you?

I think that once you've addressed those issues, you will have your answer.

Answer 5

"I don't mind the sun sometimes
the images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
and smell you in my clothes,
Cinnamon and sugery
and softly spoken lies,
we'll never know just how we look
through other peoples eyes"

Answer 6

You sound like you are uncomfortable with yourself. Seek professional counseling if it bothers you this much.

Answer 7

If i do respect my family members and others then deffinatley others see me.