I have been with my fiance for 9 yrs and we just had our frist baby 5 months ago.Our relationship has always been great until now. During the month of October I found out that he had gotten a phone for someone. When I ask him about it, he lied up and down that it was guy friend. Then I heard a meassge he left saying "Hey mamas I like being around you, you make me feel good and know that I love you" Not a guy friend, but a girl he goes to school with.
He swears on our son life that she is just a friend and that nothing ever happened. What do you think??? Can this be true
2007-11-28 17:06:53 · 24 answers · asked by tinklelove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-28 17:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by xoxoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that this is cheating. When a man tells another woman that he loves her then there is something going on. This is more than just friends. Had she truly been JUST A FRIEND why did he feel that he had to lie about it. He wouldn't.
If a man has nothing to hide he does not hide anything except presents to surprise someone.
I say whether you two have kids or not, kids do not and will not hold your relationship together. I say if you can not trust him (I mean what does your gut tell you?) then move on without him, get child support and make a happy life for you and your child.
When parents stay together for the kids is the worse thing they can do. When parents fight or even the tension in the household kids feel. Sometimes you make better parents living apart.
Only you can make this decision. Pray about it and find a support system (family and friends) to help you with whatever choice you make.
2007-11-29 01:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Muffet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 9 years and he can still pull something off to stretch your trust? I couldn't really give you a direct answer for this besides talk to him. You two have been together long enough to where this shouldn't be an issue, if it is maybe you need to think some things over.
2007-11-29 01:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by bluchair1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you heard the message with your own ears. why are allowing this man to make you think that you didnt hear what you know you heard. sweetie. come on now. let use common sense. you heard what you heard. tell him to call the friend or whoever he was talking to when he left the message and i bet you he wont call because its a girl that he is messing with and you already know it but cant believe that he would do this to you since you just had his baby. sweetie its life and right now its your life and you need to wake up and get off of fantasy island. GodBless
2007-11-29 01:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's smoke there's fire. You know what is going on. He has lied to you and he is telling another girl how much he loves being around her. If they aren't already having an affair they are about to. Sit down and talk seriously to him about what is going on, you don't have to allow this to happen.
2007-11-29 01:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends on what you consider cheating. At the very least, it certainly seems he is moving in that direction and he is acting in a way that is completely disrespectful to you. If he won't come clean about it, it is going to be very difficult to resolve and improve your relationship.
2007-11-29 01:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Josh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you both have some trust you need to work on. I suggest having him invite her over for dinner if she is just a friend? You need to talk to HIM about this. and he needs to be honest with you, for the sake of your son.
If problems continue I suggest seeing a relationship counselor.
2007-11-29 01:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by jeremy dutch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find any proof, you have to give him the benefit of the doubt, otherwise wrongful accusation can lead to upheaval in a marriage. Just give him a chance.
2007-11-29 01:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if you have been together for 9yrs and No marriage but a baby instead... Use Your instincts All of them... Be Careful trust your gut it will Never steer you wrong... God Bless...
2007-11-29 01:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by stessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now where does your doubt start, (fiance for 9 years) and first baby!!!!! I think you have more than phone issues
2007-11-29 01:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was lying. He wasn't honest. he has something to hide. You need to put him out. He is a liar he isn't to be trusted. don't be his fool. Take your son, file child support on him and girl move on with your life!
2007-11-29 01:13:11 · answer #11 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋