how can i convince my parents?

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im in 7th grade. my parents are old fashoined. the let me go to the mall & movies alone with another girl.

me & my friend know alot of boys who go to a different school that known of my other friends know.
my friend is not allowed to go to the beach alon beacuse of an expierince her mother had when she was younger.

how can i ask my parents if i can go to the beach or movies with boys. i am trustworthy. but i went out with one of these boys so my mom thinks that i shouldnt be alone without any other girls because she thinks i will be kissing them all or whatever. but she trusts me alot.
how can i ask her & make sure she says yes?

i havent asked yet about the beach & that is my main concern.
& she worries because in the past i didnt exactly know how to say no, but i have changed so i have to prove that to her

my mom doesnt understand that all i want to do is hangout with these people beacuse i might be going to there school next year.
my mom is fine about the malll & the movies. just the beach

PEOPLE IM IN 7TH GRADE MY MOM KNOWS I WENT OUT WITH THIS KID SO THATS WHY SHES SORTA UNSURE. i just wanna hang out with the other people but my mom thinks that the guy i went out with calls me all the time but i havent heard from him in like 4 months.

Answer 1

the only thing I could suggest is that you just be honest with her, and ask her politely.

If she says no, one sign that you're not ready anyway, would be if you throw a big fit because of it.

Just ask her, and if she says no, be mature, respect her answer, and try again in a few weeks.

Demonstrate to her, your maturity, and you will gain from it.

Answer 2

I am pretty sure your parents have your best interest at heart. They know what boys and girls your age are capable of, and that hormones are going crazy... I think it would be appropriate for you to suggest an outing with your guy and girl friends to the beach, and make sure that one of you has a cell phone available for your parents to reach you on. Also, your parents might be more willing to let you go if they are the ones that drop you off and pick you up. Make sure that your parents have a way to get a hold of you though, this is very important. If you write a letter to your parents about how you feel, maybe they will be more understanding. I can understand being protective, but your parents have to understand that this is just a part of growing up, and they cannot keep you under lock and key, or you will become more of a rebel later down the road.
Plan an activity, try playing vollyball with a group of friends at the beach, if your parents will allow it, and let your parents meet all of your friends, guys included. They will soon see that you are in fact trustworthy, and deserve a break.

Good luck, and remember, it won't be like this forever.

Answer 3

Hi Emma...so you wanna go hang with some guy/guys that your Mom and Dad may or may not know by yourself? And your BFF can't go with you because her Mom said no? And did you say that you already went out with one of these guys? And Mom didn't know that you were going out with him ? I don't doubt for a minute that you are trustworthy. I think that one thing to consider is that your parents might need to get to know these guys well enough to know if they are trustworthy. It doesn't sound like anywhere near as much fun as the beach (I live hundreds of miles from a beach), but the first step to your parents getting to know them and trusting them is to have them come over to the house and spend some time. If they want to spend some time with you, they can find a way to get there the same way that they get to the mall, the movies, or the beach. And if they aren't willing to come over, or you don't want them over at your house with your family, then why would your parents want you alone with them. Think about it from your parent's point of view. What if something happened and you went missing. Would they know the guys names, cell numbers, their parent's names, if they have a criminal record? It may not seem important when you are just hanging out, but it all becomes very important when something goes wrong. So give the old folks a little time. Let them get comfortable with the idea of you being out. And you gotta keep in mind that a lot of parents managed to find lots of ways to get in and out of trouble when they were your age.

Answer 4

Okay your parents have rules to protect you. If you were my daughter there would be no convincing me what so ever. The answer woudl still be no.

It's not you that not trustworthy, it's the boys, as well as to many things can happen un supervised.

So how about asking mom and dad if the friends can come over. Why does it need to be at the mall, or the movies that just asking for trouble.

Answer 5

Hi,

It's really not about not trusting you, but more of a concern for your safety. Sometimes as a teenager we think we know people so well only to find out we don't. So, I can't really say I would recommend a young girl going out completely alone with boys. I am not saying something bad will happen, but is it really worth the risk?

Please trust us parents to advise you kids on what is best since we do with it with all our love and best interest in you at heart.

Take care...

Answer 6

All you can do is ask sweety. Let them know that you are always trust worthy and follow through with what you say. If you make a prommise to them don't break it. Be open with them and they'll trust you. But respect their wishes. I didn't go to the movies alone with a boy until I was 14

Answer 7

Well, it seems as though parents are getting more strict.
My mom was never like this, maybe it's because I always told her where I was going and who I was with and I never lied about it.

Well, will she let you hang out with boys if your girl friend is with you? If so, you all could just hang out together. Just let your mom know that you don't plan on kissing anyone and that you just want to hang out with them as friends. Or, maybe even see if they can hang out at your house with you. Maybe if she meets them all and she sees how all of you act toward one another, she'll feel more comfortable.

good luck.

Answer 8

See if your mother will 1st go for the idea of a group of boys and girls going to the movies or for pizza; then ask about a double date to go to the movies or for burgers. Leave the beach for last or til you're a bit older.

Hope this helps some.

Answer 9

I know you may be trustworthy but hon there are alot of strange and scary people out there and for anyone at your age Noone should ever be alone with out someone to back them up... just sit back and think of how your parents would really feel if Anything would happen to You...

Answer 10

One thing that helps parents trust more is getting to know your friends. Let them meet the people you want to hang out with. If they're decent people and act like it around your parents there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 11

if your mom has issues with you going to the beach with friends, there is nothing you can do to change her mind....short of having her go with you.

leave it alone... you are only in 7th grade, hon.. and there are a lot of weirdos out there.. yes i'm sure you will be among your friends and around a lot of people you know, but your mom won't forget her bad experience.