i think my husband is getting bored with me , i mean we don't do anything together aymore.we have a 3 month old baby girl and the other day he told me all he wanted from me was a baby (boy) !!! i think i should've waited to get married , i feel stuck.i don't work , he moved us 2 states away from ANY of my family.plz i need some help!!
2007-11-28 16:27:41 · 14 answers · asked by derrick's wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
mama, you feel stuck because you are stuck.
i don't know what the answer to your situation is, but if i were you, i would look into getting a job and saving up some money of your own....just in case, or talking to your family to see if they'd be willing to help you out if you needed to leave.
sometimes dudes wig out after becoming fathers, for all sorts of different reasons.
take care because you could easily get quite depressed in this situation.
maybe a good immediate solution is to go visit your family for a while. I'm sure everyone wants to play with the baby girl some more!
2007-11-28 16:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young and dumb. You just learned a fact of life. Marriage sucks. You ruined the relationship by getting married. Now you have a child and that is the most important thing. You have to decide what to do next. Here are some more facts of life to help you decide:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks (moving in is the same as marriage)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want honest answers from a man that doesn't
lie anymore.
2007-11-29 03:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. It is way too soon for him or you to feel this way. If he is treating you this way because he wants a Boy and you had a Girl then he needs to grow up. He is the one who determines the baby's sex and there are no grantees, we are Blessed with boys and girls. He should be Happy to have a healthy baby girl for now and if it is meant to be someday he might have his boy, but first of all he needs to be in the bedroom with you. He is being very childish and I would seriously think about how my life would be with someone like that. I can't imagine. I have been so very fortunate to have a husband who loves me and I love him, that is what marriage should be. It should not be so shallow that a tiny baby girl makes him go the other way. Someday this little baby girl will be grown and would her daddy want some guy treating her that way? I doubt it! Good Luck to you...... Take Care of you and Baby. If your husband doesn't grow up and learn to be a Husband, leave him sit there alone and go live your life with your little daughter. Let her know you love her always.
2007-11-28 16:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by AngelD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No his not bored maybe he just needs to sleep babies that young may wake a lot at night and he need rest you should take turns getting rest a new baby is a lot of work for the both of you .when he said he wanted a boy he just probably was stressed about having a baby not realizing how much work a baby is..Your not stuck your just going threw some tough times its all a part of marriage .Keep in touch with your family call them email them if you need help ask them to visit...GOODLUCK....LOL
2007-11-28 16:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by just bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you consider divorce, I would say talk to him, spice up your sex life. Meet him at the door with your " birthday suit " on, candle light dinner, candles and bubble bath, just something super romantic. You have to try new things, for married couples the bedroom should be full of adventure and no boundaries. As far as the " baby boy " comment he passed, that was a low blow. You should definitely talk to him, and as I said, spice things up. Sometimes doing the same thing over and over gets super boring.
Good Luck!
2007-11-28 16:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't want to be the one to give you the worst case scenario, but sometimes men, don't like to be with their wives after their child is born...look at elvis he never touched his wife again after they had their daughter. that or he has found someone else, have you noticed and strange behavior? i know my x husband was doing that, and i found out he was cheating. check him out cell attitude if everything checks out perty clear, then maybe he's tired with the new baby, you know it does get tiring, and i'm sure u are too, or try togive him some cute erotic massages, to spice things up, maybe buy a movie, cause guys like movies...lol...or maybe try sleeping on the other couch with him and keep him company.if nothing works call your family and ask them to come and get you...family will never turn their backs on you, do what you got to do if all else fails at least you know that you tried. much love girl and i hope the best for you and your new baby
2007-11-28 17:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cinthya R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to leave his *** and take your child with you cause aint no use in staying in a relationship if they dont want to be there, but if you feel like he is getting bored spice it up by playing role plays in the bed room or do a strip tease. Good look ( Adam and Eve have good appliances)
2007-11-28 16:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by LiL B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here is your answer you answered the question yourself:
he told me all he wanted from me was a baby (boy).........
Yes he is bored with you. I would have never married him.
2007-11-28 17:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a chauvanist pig. A son?? WHAT about his daughter????
Do yourself a favour and get out- move back to where you came from maybe it isn't too late to get the marriage annulled?
2007-11-28 16:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not healthy. If you have a chance and strength you'd better leave him and start your life, 'cause you can be stuck like that forever
2007-11-28 16:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋