I'm Losing Motivation again , What Can I do?

Question

I know I have to find a job , and move out ..
and I have 2 interviews coming up .

But i feel like my depression will take over ..

i feel so sad right now , and I dn't feel like going to the interviews eventhough I know I need this job to make money and pay for my car , insurance , credit cards , and eventually move out from this dysfunctional family system.

What do you think ...
how can I empower myself?

Answer 1

Woo boy, I know that feeling!

I would recommend, firstly, taking a deep breath, a long shower, and a night long nap/sleep! If you are anything like me your mind is racing out of control with all the responsibilities that are going to be forced on you all at once that are quite the necessary evil. Taking a deep breath, a long shower, and getting some rest will help your mind to slow down to a more reasonable pace which I would quite imagine help you feel a little more in control and calm about this huge transition in your life.

Another suggestion I have would be to rally around your friends for support. Since you are leaving a dysfunctional family system you obviously are not getting the proper support in order to make this huge step (and I'll bet your family life has contributed more than its far share to your depression . . . so think about how much less you will be receiving the stimulants that cause part of your depression-the ones your family contributes- by being successful and living by yourself!) you should definitely ask your friends for support in your new endeavors and advice on how to best achieve them.

If you are at an age in which you are still in school you can zap a lot of your worries by trying to get as many scholarships as possible to help pay for your school (if you are in college) and if you are in the last year or so of high school definitely talk with the administration of your school to see what they do about making things such as lunches cheaper for you. Now with insurance, there are a lot of discounts out there to get. For instance, if you are a good student (a gpa of above 3.0) there is a discount for that . . . and if you have had no tickets or accidents there are further discounts for that! This is definitely something to ask about and discuss with your insurance agent about! Another thing to keep in mind is that if you are moving out there is always cheaper rent available by splitting an apartment with someone else or renting a room at a house :)!

With regards to empowering yourself I would suggest looking around you at what you have accomplished and realizing that you are an extremely capable being! For instance, you could be like "I am attractive enough as a future employee that I was able to get two interviews! That means that because I am so intelligent, hard working, and strong I will definitely be hired for a great job!" :) Simple as that! And try to do that with as much in your life as possible! For instance, when you exercise you can be like " because i did such in such reps/weight/miles/hours and blah I will look better, have more endurance for the day, and have a longing healthier life. Which will make me happier and more attractive to everyone I'm around. Which will then open up knew doors for me and make my life horribly interesting!" There is no shame in thinking this way! It is not only empowering but it really helps boost your confidence, both of which help to combat depression.

Hope that helps :)!

Answer 2

The good thing is knowing that you are getting down and want to stop it. I think that when you get a job it will help you feel better about yourself so keep that in mind. Having a job will get you closer to getting where you want to be. You might even have to tell yourself that you are not going to have negative thoughts and that you will focus on the positive things. Its hard to do sometimes when you have been in such a rut for awhile. But I think you are on the right path especially when you realize that you are getting down again. So I think that when you turn your negative and sad thoughts towards something positive. And if that dosen't work get away from whats upsetting you and breath and relax. Enjoy a hobby that makes you happy. Because if you let depression take over and you stop working towards your goal it gets even more discouraging. Just hold your head up high and keep your eye on whats important. I hope I gave you decent advice. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are greater than you think. Gosh, I can't help much without knowing how your family's like.

I know it's hard, but think about the good times. Cry. Watch something that makes you think of the good times, like a movie, or go to a place that makes you feel happy.

When I say think of the good times, I mean... yes, think of the past but not desiring to go back to the past.
No matter how horrible your life can be, there must be at LEAST one point in your life that you have felt happy.

Search for it,
when you find it, you know what I mean.

Go for the interview.
You will find that life is so much more than this,
when you're done with the interview.

Look in the mirror, and see yourself,
and tell yourself that you can make it.
Because you will.
Believe in yourself.

It is hard, it is difficult,
it is tiring.

But I understand, it's depression.

Eat your favourite dish for lunch today.

And you can make it.

Answer 4

Nothing is as motivating as success. My advice is for you to start small and give yourself a few quick victories. For example, promise yourself that tomorrow you will make two job-related phone calls. Get up early and just do it (as the saying goes). You will instantly feel better about yourself.

Do you have a professional resume? An outfit that you feel and look good in? A good smile and a sense that you will be an asset to your next employer? None of these things cost a lot, but they are all necessary. Good luck!

Answer 5

Not sure how old you are, but think Positive. Call and book an appt with your family Doctor, Let him know you are sad, and ask for his suggestions to see someone, or maybe you can take an anti-depressant pill for abit. Take a shower, think of tomorrow as a new Beginning.
Try not to think too much, what will happen, will happen, but be Positive.

Go to Bed.....................

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Without challenges, we would never know victory.

I will pray for you and your pending victory.

Answer 8

empower yourself with all the reasons you NEED to do these things. be PRODUCTIVE its hott.