ive been trying to forgive him and trying to continue our marraige, but i cant forget this and i hate him for it also since it happened we havnt been the same were arguing nearly everyday, ive completly changed my thaughts on him and every day im hating him more- so i need advice on divorce or annulment were stil living together but on the start of december im going to move away-what does this mean for divorce? ive read ovr the internet on this but it said wed need to be living apart for over 5-7years weve only been married for four months-would i have a right to an annulment? if anyone mite know anything it would be a good help rite now
2007-11-28 15:39:10 · 26 answers · asked by daisyanna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did the thought ever cross your mind that he only married you to get a green card. You certainly are not the first and your definitely not going to be the last woman who has been tricked into this. I don't know if you go in the chat rooms if you do then you know that there are so many men from India and Pakistani that what to talk to women. 9 out of 10 men from there want to talk dirty to you, everyone that i have talked to says the same thing about his wife or girlfriend saying how they don't like sex don't like sex. I'm only telling you this so you will see just what kind of man you trusted . I can't believe you payed 1/2 of his attorney fees for him. You give him enough let him work his own problems out himself.
2007-11-28 20:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the Priest who married you. Tell him what is going on and what happened. Go to court, get an anullment. If you are worried about the church "recognizing" the anullment... you should be fine. Your husband was the one who was unfaithful and the church will not hold that against you. You have a right to an anullment if the marriage is less then 1 year old and both parties consent. If he doesn't agrre to an anullment... take him to court and you can let a judge decide and still get your anullment if he rules in your favor. (which he most likely will) The 5-7 years is if your husband chooses not to consent to the divorce. After 5-7 years you can get a divorce without consent. Get a lawyer.
2007-11-28 15:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by tootrusting814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what state you live in there are different provisions. I believe it would in your best interest for you to speak with a paralegal or a attorney (to see what you need to provide to the court). I think if you provide the proper paperwork in the county that you both live in you can have your marriage annulled (providing he doesn't contest the annulment). Do not hesitate get right on this tomorrow! The best of luck and don't worry Mr. wonderful is still out there looking for you.
2007-11-28 15:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would only be able to get a no fault divorce in any event. Albeit he fathered a child (possibly) behind your back, but that was before your marriage, and so whilst being a cheating scumbag, has not actually broken his marriage vows. If you still have feelings for the man, then consider whether you are in a position to forgive him. If he had confessed to sleeping with this woman 3 years ago, and there was no child, how would you feel? If you would have ended the relationship then maybe that is what you need to do now.
2016-04-06 03:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5-7 years? nope. some states do have a waiting period, though. Like 30 days or 90 days after you file for divorce.
talk to friends, or people that they know, about how to get a divorce, and lawyer recommendations. GO FIND A DIVORCE SUPPORT GROUP. Call churches to find one. It will keep you sane. if you have only been married four months, and no kids, find a lawyer who charges a flat fee, not by the hour. it should be a pretty simple divorce, as far as lawyer effort.
2007-11-28 15:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nagabhata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him, WHY. 1st, going with an prostitute, is better then having an affair, no Emotional Attachment. You seem to have already let him know your feelings, what does he say. If, you both are truly unhappy, then maybe try a separation for abit, if you never think this will work out, then let him go. You have deep feelings on this subject with him, you must deal with your own thoughts first. He needs to explain, why he did this to you. Cheating is not good, , but you need to stop yelling and start talking to each other.
Check out your local area, each country has different laws on Divorce.
2007-11-28 15:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good attorney and go for the annulment. In the mean time, do NOT ever have sex with him again!
You do not want to catch what the prostitutes have. I worked vice for many years in a large city. There is no such thing as an old prostitute for a reason.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-11-28 15:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would annul the marriage ..1 you dont know what the hooker had ..2 you dont know if it was the first time or not and to go with 2 once a cheater always a cheater
2007-11-28 15:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by MommyOf2Babies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about getting a marriage annul ed however you can get a divorce. And if you cannot forgive him and work it out then that is what you will need to do
2007-11-28 15:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by rene1695 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a choice. If you choose to stay with him, you must truly put it behind you, because otherwise you'll ruin what's left of the relationship.
I wouldn't deem to tell you what to do, but it would seem to me that a man who's cheating in the first few months of marriage is a lousy bet. If you do stay, don't have children until you have put it back together for at least five years.
2007-11-28 15:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋