My partner and i broke up a week ago. we had been together for just over 4 years. My girl wanted to break up cos she didn't know if she loved me the same anymore, she said maybe she has to lose me in order to realise what she has. I agreed with her cos i fell we will get back together, so we ended up partning on ok terms. All my friends even the females have told me not to have contact with her, to let her contact me first. Her mother has informed she is going through a roller coaster ride of emotions at the moment and to give her time to work it out.
I really want her back as i love her with all my heart and believe she is the one, i feel that i am doing the wright thing. What do you think?
2007-11-28 15:11:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitly give her the space she needs. She will either see that you are what she wants or vise versa. The only thing you don't want to do is contact her and make her feel that you are not respecting her wishes. Plus if you are to contact her then you may push her back into the relationship before she is ready only causing more problems. You may get her back now only to loose her again because she wasn't ready. I am not sure how old you two are, but if it is meant to be then the relationship will come together naturally. The last thing you want to do is force the relationship. Give her time even though it may feel like your heart is being torn apart. Good luck!
2007-11-28 15:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by jeremylives5280 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're doing the right thing. Let the honey come to you man. I'll go out on a limb here and make an analogy. Being patient for the ball to come to you before you bat it (in baseball) ensures that you will hit with more power. i am not advocating beating her because that is morally and legally wrong.
2007-11-28 15:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nick B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me although i did not have the courage to call him and now 2yrs l8ter i really miss but he has a new gf and they are madly in love it hurts bad sometimes to see them together but im happy to see them happy. and if you really believe shes the one then call her talk to her first as a friend because a friend can always tell when their friend is ready for more then maybe when she decides shes ready 4 more she will think about how you were there through all that hard time and did not push her then she will ask you back.
good luck.
2007-11-28 15:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by emmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait and give her that time she needs if you love her that much..with that said i wouldn't wait very long. the longer your apart the more you guys will drift apart.. i would give her 3 or 4 weeks then contact her if shes not contacted you by then and tell her what you want to do with your relationship and see what she wants to do with it.. and go from there.. if she says she needs more time tell her you can only give her another week or so because then you will be moving on with your life and you hope she does also.. thats what i would do anyway.. good luck
2007-11-28 15:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the RIGHT thing by staying away. Let her be the first to call since it was HER idea to have this break.
2007-11-28 15:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you wait for her to move first and she waits for you to move first then what is going to happen? Make a move, but dont PUSH IT, just let her know you still care and you are tehre when/if she is ready.
Good luck
2007-11-28 15:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Katy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore her.I know your thinking if you show her how much you love her she will love you more.Not so.
She KNOWS you love her and she can HAVE you ANYTIME she wants!
Ignore her and let her miss you, if she dumps you then it would not have worked out, if she comes running then you'll know she realizes she does love you and if she DOES come back then propose to her, this way she will know you arent afraid to commit to her.
2007-11-28 15:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing cos if she is yours she will be back if not move on!!!
2007-11-28 15:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah definitely! Maybe tell her mom tho that u care about her very much so it gets back to her...
2007-11-28 15:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm first of all you are doing the right thing and you should let her come to you and if she was the one she would come back to you!
2007-11-28 15:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by carrie f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋