mother's loss?

Question

My mom died in 2005, but her memories are tearing me apart mentally. I just don't feel like living here in the world anymore. I really really miss her. How to get over this loss?

Answer 1

Its hard,sooo hard and you never really ever get over it but you have to live your life,think for a second if your mother were here and heard you say that you didnt feel like living anymore,she would be devastated,live your life to its full potential, in her memory

Answer 2

I know. I lost my mother too. Truthfully, honey, you never get over the loss. Some days the pain is worse than others, and sometimes, however brief, it is possible to forget yourself and not think of it. Holidays are especially hard.. remembering certain recipes and missing the family traditions. But the best part is, your mother is still alive in your heart. On her death bed, my mom wrote me a note... and it said, "There is no greater love, than the love that holds on when there seems nothing left to hold onto." I'm starting to cry now... just remembering and it's been nine years. But my mother was my best friend. A few times I picked up my phone and dialed her number... cuz for a few moments I just plain forgot she was gone. There are no words to describe the pain of losing ones mother. And of course you want to live in this world... because even if you lost your mom? You still have her in your heart and she lives on inside of you. Always.

Answer 3

You're still dealing with the death of your mother... it's a huge loss to have to cope with but you are not alone and you're not on your own.
Rather then allowing the memories tear you apart you have to use them to get you by day to day... think of them as what made you who you are and smile because you actually have memories of your mother unlike some children.
Then, depend on your friends and other activities that you like to take your mind off the hurt and occupy you from thinking about sad thoughts.
Also, I would suggest seeing a therapist. I see a therapist and she has helped me in so many ways that I never thought I could be helped... seeing one can help you cope with your loss.

Answer 4

You must light a candle each night, before Bed, and talk to her. Let her be in your prayers, each night. Try to remember the good times, and remember she is in a Happy Place, floating on a big fluffy cloud, watching over you. She is there with you, wanting the best for you.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints in the snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain,
when you awaken in the mornings hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds in circled flight,
i am the soft stars that shine at night,
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I did not die.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

remember the joy that you got from her and know that she is watching over you . what would she think of you now ? do what you can to make her proud and be a special person to everyone around you. everyone has lost that special person in their life but you cant just give up. my mom was my best friend. she came to me to talk to when her sister died because she felt all alone,her parents died before that. she had 6 girls and came to me. i can remember her smell ,her smile, and every thing she has taught me. its been 15 yrs and i still want to call her. but i hold that place in my heart only for her and when i do something i know that she would of done then i know shes still teaching me and living on through me. i keep her strong in my thoughts by making her proud of me and knowing when its time and god want me ,then i will see her again.

Answer 6

.... i absolutely understand how u feel, i lost my mom last year and i feel like giving up sometimes too. when ever u feel like that think about what your mom would say to u! no ones mother would want them to give up. dont think about it as her being gone, think about it as her being in a better place u kno? im sorry about ur loss. and you shouldnt keep this 2 yourself about this. Let someone close 2 you know how u feel.

Answer 7

I lost mine last year and to offset my grief I started doing art work of all kinds painting, drawing --etc. in her memory-it wasn't very good but it helped me-so I suggest you find a way to remember her in a positive manner and do something creative with that-it really helps alot.

Answer 8

Let your family and friends support you. You don't have to suffer alone. Share your burden with them and it will be easier on you as well. Just talk to someone. Good luck and Im sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

I know the feeling I lost my mom also, pray and ask God for peace to deliver you from losing someone dearly to you. Your mom is in a better place, and see wouldn't want u to let yourself go.

Answer 10

I have a memento from my grandma. We were very close and it was very hard to accept her leaving. But I wear her earring. It's like she is still there. I have one from my mom, one day, if she leaves me, i will have that to always remind me of her. It'll be like she is there talking to me. I have something for my daughter. One day when I leave I will give it to her, and tell her it's a part of me. That I am always there even if i'm not there.