,and its a mans job to work and take care of the family ,its my oldest daughter does not like going up there much cos of this and she is 14 yrs old ,i have said to her let it go in one ear and out the other one but somebody help me
2007-11-28 13:49:14 · 8 answers · asked by suzywong 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i have sald that to her that her gran grew up different ,she thinks is this day and age her gran should know its not the same when she was a kid
2007-11-28 14:11:25 · update #1
I read your other question earlier - about taking your daughter's side, and I think that her grandmother is trying to help you bring up your daughter well.. but doesn't know her well enough to do so. And, grandmothers are "always right" you know! (rolling eyes)
You can try a wholly different approach, though (only because I feel it's important to have good memories of a grandparent). See if your daughter is willing to play along.. maybe her grandmother can teach her some things about cooking and cleaning or something... tell your daughter she can learn the old ways of doing things from her grandmother, and possibly teach her grandmother that the "new" ways aren't all bad.
Remember, this woman's a part of your daughter's life.. it should be a positive relationship. Tell your daughter not to take offense by what her grandmother says about the roles of women, that her grandmother was raised to believe that a woman's worth comes from serving her family. Don't be offended by her comments.
Try to teach your daughter that everyone has different ideas about the roles women and men have in the family, and that no one's beliefs are right or wrong.
2007-11-30 03:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is uncomfortable it's because she hasn't learned how to just ignore criticism from other people, especially from family members, which is understandable at that age. This is a good time to sit her down and talk about tolerance. The grandmother is old and is now set in her ways, she believes that staying home and raising a family is what is best, because it's what she did, and in her mind she's not wrong. And neither is your daughter for having a different opinion on those things, but fighting with her grandmother is pointless at this time, just like her grandmother fighting with her is pointless.
You have to help teach her how to let go of those things, and zero in on the things that are positive in their relationship. Tell her she'd be the better person just nodding her head and letting Grandma say what she wants, but to ultimately do what is best for her. Maybe cutting back on how many visits for a bit would help her get her own bearings before seeing her grandmother again.
2007-11-28 15:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single Dad for the last 12 yrs. My boys are 13 & 16. My sons were raised to understand that we all have to cook, clean, and do laundry. These days a man can't depend on having a woman who will be their "domestic partner". Boys as well as girls should all be taught to deal with household duties. My sons are pretty good in the kitchen. It's one of my better accomplishments. KTnTexas
2007-11-28 15:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by megagoatbarn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind, that is the century they lived in. Just agree when you are there, and go on with your business...I know people the same way. Tell you 14 year old that they grew up a long time ago and things were a bit different back then.. GOod luck!
2007-11-28 13:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In her time, a woman was a housewife.
But lest we forget that a little something called 'Women's Rights' has entered the fray.
Modern women need to work in the real world in order to secure a good life for her family in this ever-changing world.
2007-11-30 07:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ... my outlaws are a bit that way out, even though she always worked, we all just ignore it
basically it's bo11ox - either your b/f is going to have to stand up to her over some of this crappola or young Steph is going to explode one day. That might be entertaining, but might not endear her over much to Granny dearest.
What a silly old bat! Out of curiosity, does Granny also think she's entitled to dish out all those thick ears to other people's kids that "never hurt anybody"? I dumped someone over a mother like that ...
2007-11-29 02:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really i would say a woman does what she wants and doent slave around for other people in my mind..
2007-11-28 22:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tunisian barbie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's smart.
2007-11-29 07:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋