i love my bf..would marry today..but he says he is not the marrying kind.. says he loves me with all his heart..wants to spend the rest of his life with me.. i am 42 ydr older than his is,,would you wait for him??
2007-11-28 13:34:43 · 36 answers · asked by vis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean i am 42 and he is 31
2007-11-28 13:38:39 · update #1
I would snatch him up right away. When you were 42 he was a fetus!
2007-11-28 13:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First of all, if he loves you with all his heart and knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, there is no reason on Earth for him not to marry you. Marriage is lifetime commitment. If he's willing to commit, why won't he marry? Something doesn't add up. Either he's lying about how much he loves you, or... actually, I can't think of another explanation.
Second, are you really 42 years older than him??? I honestly do not mean to cause you offense, but there is no way that's going to work out. You would do a lot better to find someone who isn't young enough to be your grandson. A man closer to your own age will understand you better and probably be a lot more willing to commit to you. This boy you're with may well just be too *embarrassed* to marry you.
2007-11-28 13:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r 42 yrs older to ur b/f, u must be at least 60 yrs old. An woman of that age can only love her grand children not boy friend. I know many of my acquaintances who have wives aged around 45 to 50 . Their love is diminishing for husbands and these wives r not found to be involved to hunt for b/fs. Why its otherwise in ur case. If its true none will come forward to marry u. U r just kidding I guess.
2007-11-28 13:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by nazbak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait for him! Move on! Their are plenty of men out there who are the marrying kind! Wait, how old is he? WOW that's a huge age difference! Maybe you should find someone closer to your age! A guy 42 years younger doesn't want to settle down with someone that much older! I'm sorry, but it's the truth!
2007-11-28 13:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-no I would not especially being 42 ydr older than his and all
2007-11-28 13:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you are 42 that means, that you probably have a good career, a home, a car, you are financially secure. So why in the world to you want to get married? If you have a great boyfriend, please don't push him away by talking about marriage, it's only a piece of paper and more than once, they start cheating on your after you get married, because they feel like they are trapped. So enjoy life with him and forget about that.
Good luck
2007-11-28 13:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The clock is ticking. It might be wise not to wait on him.
If you ARE the marrying kind .. he could marry you if he loves you with all his heart & he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
What is there to wait for - if he says he is not the marrying kind?
Don't listen to his words .. check out his actions. His actions may speak louder then words.
Words are easy.
2007-11-28 13:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, I don't understand. You're 42 years older than him? Well, if that's true, of course he would want to wait longer. Sheesh, my cousins' husband is 23 years older than she is. I thought that was a big age difference.
2007-11-28 13:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you can live without the marriage. He has told you up front how it is going to be. Don't think that he will change his mind. If you can live without the paper don't sweat it. Wanting to spend the rest of his life with you is what you want so if you love him stay with him.
2007-11-28 13:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me repeat your question back to you....
You are in love with a man you want to marry, who "loves" you but not enough to marry you.
Honey, if he doesn't want to marry you, then he doesn't DESERVE you. You have different goals. You have different desires. Two people in love on the wrong track. You owe it to yourself to find the man who will love you as you are and BEG to marry you!
Good luck to you.
2007-11-28 13:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say whet ever makes you happy. If I was in that sugestion (spelling?) I would ask him a couple of questions like you love me and I love you, but do you want me to wait around forever? I say you shouldn't but thats MY option. But its what you feel not what other peoples options are
2007-11-28 13:42:05 · answer #11 · answered by Super Junior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋