Last year I had two girls who were my closest friends. The three of us did just about everything together. After we went different ways for the summer (we're in college), she e-mailed me to say we couldn't be friends anymore. No explanation. Since then she's spoken to me exactly once, to reiterate that we would not be hanging out anymore. When I went to her dorm to try to talk to her, her mother reported me for harassment. The crazy thing is, we're both still friends with the third girl, who also has no idea why she's done this and is about an inch from telling her to bug off. Anyway, my question is not why my friend dumped me like this--I don't know if anyone will ever know--but how I can deal with it. It's been five months and I'm still so bewildered and upset. I can't seem to put it behind me. Does anyone have any advice?
2007-11-28 13:34:40 · 17 answers · asked by Liz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi Liz,
I think you've answered your own question. Since there is absolutely nothing you can do to either find out more about it or recover the friendship, then you simply have to move on. I know it's difficult not knowing, but why torment yourself? Your former friend will either come around or she won't, and in either case it will be completely up to her.
Good Luck.
2007-11-28 13:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by I_Walk_Point 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing recently happened to me and all I can tell you is that you should just get over it! We sometime outgrow people and people outgrow us! I love my best pal and I hope the best for her but I cannot and will not sit bewildered because of it. I wanted an explanation also but when she couldn't seem to find it an obligation to at least let me know why, because of our fifteen year friendship I figured she did something that I would soon find out about behind my back or something and she probably wants it to look like she never was cool with me to save face with someone else! (you know what I mean?) So anyway it's her loss and don't lose any sleep over it. k. much love peace!
2007-11-28 21:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Runteldat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can never put anything behind me either. My friends always get annoyed by that but thats just me. Well anyway my advice is try waiting for a couple days to let things settle then set a date to go chill and talk about it. Your friend might have been angry with you for some reason and just dumped you. You might have done something[without noticing] to hurt your friend. This maybe the answer. I hope all of you girls become friends again and stay friends =]
I hope i helped. Best Of Luck
-JollyyDollyy=]
2007-11-28 21:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal now I don't know you but whn mother's don't like your daughters friend it usually has to do with either you smoke or you dress the wrong way for a mother or you are doing something she does not approve . Some daughters listen to their moms and maybe your ex friend listened to whatever her mom said to her. Maybe look in the mirror and see if this is the problem. Hope I was able to help. I know is hard but if she did not stick aroundas a friend thatn she never was your true friend. Find a new friend or change your ways. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 21:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people in your life are gonna disapoint you..We've all been there. I've been through an almost exact same situation..My advice to you is pretend like it's the last thing on your mind. Don't talk to your 3rd friend about it anymore just pretend like she didn't exist. Trust me that's the best thing you can do. Don't dwell on it.. She aint nobody you need to be friends with. A friend would never do that to you
2007-11-28 21:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by gangstaG 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to speak with her and have gotten only reported for harrassment I would be inclined to think it may not be your problem. If your only worry is how to let go I suggest you busy yourself with your studies and the other friend and get on with life.
2007-11-28 21:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Joshot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not choice but turn your back and walk away. Sometimes people draw lines in the sand and do irrational things. Don't let it make you crazy just let it go.
2007-11-28 21:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Big Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friend come and go family is for ever if you was a good friend like you said it's her lost.. you don't need to kiss her a..
2007-11-28 21:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by ro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was not your friend
search your heart and if you were not lacking move on make new friends
2007-11-28 21:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her mother has something to do with it, best to just abide by your ex-friend wishes and move on
2007-11-28 21:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by azuzathebad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋