When I was about 8 years old I was molested by a contractor in my own house. It never really had much of an effect on me because I was so young and never really understood what happened, until later. Last year I was sexually harassed by a teacher that I have known for years. It brought back memories of what happened and I got really upset about both of them at the same time. It's been less than a year but I'm still really upset, I can't stop thinking about it. I feel like I can't trust men, and I truely believe that all men are pigs. Although the man that molested me got sent to jail and the teacher got fired I can't stop thinking that it might happen again to someone else. I don't really want to get into detail about what happened, but if someone can just give me advice on how I can get over this, I would greatly appreciate it. I don't know what to do. It makes me think I am nothing special and it is the reason why I have no self confident. Please help!
2007-11-28 13:30:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And I don't think I can afford counseling. I feel bad bringing it up because I try to come out strong to everyone else. I'm a really happy person, and I don't want people thinking I'm not happy. Because I am.
2007-11-28 13:43:06 · update #1
Wow, all I can say that this simply is not something that can be answered on Yahoo!. At least the most important thing has happened and both of these worthless pieces of &*^* have been dealth with appropriately, but the only way you are going to get through this is to have someone you can talk to and work through your feelings. Find a family member, counsellor, or whoever to trust and open a dialog with them to help you get through this.
What you are feeling is perfectly natural and you should not be ashamed or disappointed in yourself for it. You will be able to overcome this, but only if you make the effort to do so.
Good luck.
PS. Not all men are pigs, and I am confident you will discover that yourself sooner than you think.
2007-11-28 13:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me tell you that you are not a fault in any manner. The men that did this are evil and are a waste of human flesh. You have right to be mad at them but you also can not let them win. You take control of your life by going to counseling and you surround yourself around people in which you can trust. You also should talk about it with other people that might have gone through the same thing. I went through something like this and there is no easy solution but you cant hide your hurt and you cant ignore it. I know it sounds cheesy but support groups work and I would suggest sitting in on a few because there is comfort in numbers. I am sorry that you went through this...join the cause and help prevent this from happening to some other person by telling your story and winning!!!!
2007-11-28 13:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by businessgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very, very sorry. That is something that is very devastating, I'm sure. No matter if you want to or not, you must get some kind of therapy or counseling. It will only worsen, and you won't be able to trust another man. I agree with you -- men can be pigs at times. But I'm sure you don't want to go your whole life never being able to trust another man. I know counseling isn't something you're most likely wanting to get, but it will definitely help you to view things differently. Good luck. I hope everything turns out okay.
2007-11-28 13:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mind is a powerful thing. Every day think of good things and life a great. Its the past continue to live a fruitful life. Learn how to love and give love.
2007-11-28 18:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so unfortunate and it makes me so angry that such scum could walk the earth. I would seek professional help; it can take years of therapy (unfortunately) to recover from a situation like this. If it makes any difference... I can promise you that not ALL men are pigs.
2007-11-28 13:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, not all men are pigs. If you decide to get into a relationship, just dont get too close just to be safe.
2007-11-28 13:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by ILY [more than you know] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋