Would you do this to me and why?

Question

Ok I am severly depressed right now.

I was with my Bipolar girlfriend for almost 5 years....Last December she left me for 2 months cuz she thought I needed to change....I was to blame for all.....she came back and I allowed her to even though she is the one who left me. We were together for about 5 more months this time and she left me again, with everything being worse this time and with her being nastier than I have ever heard or seen her. She is untreated and wild as a fireball right now. I know I can't force her to get help so please don't say that. Right now I am not supposed to contact her at all. Her friends are bad and they influence her and she is getting married to a girl she has only known 2 months and met over the internet on her phone.

I have psychological problems too but I have been getting help for the last 2 years. She knew as well as I did, it was going to be a process...and even though I changed some things and was somewhat better from the first time she left,

it still wasn't enough. But my main question is, is you were as unhappy as what she makes it seem to be she was to her 'friends', would you have came back to me the first time, when you didn't have to?

And the other thing is, is she leaded me on for the first 2 months after she left this time, and told me she still wanted me and then only a 3 weeks go by and she is rubbing the pics of her and her new girl kissing and everything else in my face as well as her 'ring' her girl got her (which my ex paid for herself) because her girlfriend does not work and moved from the other side of the state. Her whole demeanor has changed in a couple months time.

So would you have done that to me? I know I am not perfect by no means, but I am also caring and loving too. I have been through so much with her, through thick and thin, and even though sometimes we didn't see eye to eye or get along perfectly like the 'fairytale' relationship she wanted...I was still there by her side.

Answer 1

Are you a female? That aside, you can always judge a person manipulation by how you know their purpose, how they know what the heck their doing in their lives. This ladies lost, no other ways about it, what her purpose is with her life, and weather your he/she, your doing the samething. Because this all kinds of problems, issues, trama, much drama, and confustion is going to be sort of a norm. So weather she was leading you on, comes on down to how well you think you know her and whats she's doing with herself, how much of a friend you are. Trust that if you were close, she was confused. Trust if you were never all that close, she knew what she was doing.....

Answer 2

It's obvious that she has problems that she needs help with. You did nothing wrong, and she might be rubbing that in your face because she's not yet over you. It sounds like everything got a little too overwhelming for her, and she decided to leave it at that. I wouldn't have done that to you -- but I'm not bipolar, and I don't know what she was going through at the time.