Ok, someone I work with (he's married) used to act nervous around me like he liked me. We were dancing around with each other for two months (by that I mean liking each other from afar, not really doing anything else). It was one of the things where you just knew that he had feelings for you and vice versa.
Now recently, all of a sudden, he gives me the cold shoulder. When I enter a room, he exits out right away before I even know it. He has his back turned to me when he knows I will walk by. He used to be so loud and outgoing at work, but recently he just goes to his office and never says a word anymore. I feel like he's almost avoiding me.
I think that he had feelings for me at one time, but now could it just be that he decided it was wrong? I'm taking it so personally and I can't help it because even though I just want to be his coworker again, I feel like he feels uncomfortable around me now because we liked each other. It's almost like he hates my guts or something.
2007-11-28 13:27:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would think that he is avoiding you. He knows that he cannot have a relationship with you and so he stays away. Smart man. Better that then cheating on his wife. Do not take it personally, he is trying to protect himself.
2007-11-28 13:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...Even though you two danced from afar and he was married doesn't actually mean he wanted anything other than to acknowledge your existence. It also doesn't mean that he doesn't like you.
...People go through ups and downs. Also sometimes people entertain ideas without thinking about the true consequences of what they are doing. Maybe he didn't realize he was leading you on. Maybe he really cares for his wife (and or family).
...Men and women both like to feel attractive even if it is to strangers or the people they interact with every day. People goes through these ups and downs.
...My advice to you is to read into this dance between you two the best you can and bring the fantasies back down to reality. It doesn't mean he's scared of you. It could mean he's scared of making a mistake.
2007-11-28 22:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason - he must have had a change of heart.
He wants it to stop.
The only way he can put a halt to it .. is to ignore you.
Don't act hurt .. or cause any pressure on him. Just honor his decision .. and it will make it pass more painless for both of you.
Somehow .. someway .. his wife may have found out.
I know someone this happened to .. and the wife went through the roof about it .. and the man completely stopped talking to the lady at his work place because of his wife.
Also - some co-worker may have noticed - and made him feel like he was jeopardising his job. No one knows the real reason for sure - but him .. but just let it be .. this too, shall pass.
Give him plenty of space. Avoid eye contact .. but don't act mad or hurt. Let him do 'his-thing' .. for whatever his reasoning is.
2007-11-28 22:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personal its probably just guilt. No worries. He's married things may have been not so hot with the wife and he turned to you for the attention or feelings of being wanted. I'd say his marriage is back on track. Don't take it personal. Nothing that has to do with you!!!
2007-11-28 22:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Alpha Female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone caught on to his interest in you, and let him know it. Could be a friend who knows his wife. I may be wrong, but the point is don't take it personally, he may just be trying to "correct the situation", and it appears to you he's just being cold. To me, he's acting scared. It would be interesting to find out what was said to him.
2007-11-28 21:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Action 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he stepped over the line, knows it, and hasn't the decency to tell he is sorry for being out of line. Ignore, move on and remember work is the last place for romance (forget The Office).
2007-11-28 21:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
there is a thing called perception
you are wishing he liked you
but you NEVER confirmed this
many women do this
men don't
men will ask
men will be forthright and find out if some one likes them or not
they are pragmatic that way
women go on so much assumption and then get upset if it does not work out
hint..
me are not mind readers
so NEVER assume anything
2007-11-28 21:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is doing what needs to be done to stop an affair so be aware also he may have had his wife talk to him already about you and it caused him to stop too. maybe she found out and he didn't wont to loose her...so take a deep breath and move on and stop with the affair thing OK good luck and start thinking more of hour husband OK....
2007-11-28 21:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a supervisor mentioned it and he's saving his job. He's supposed to be a professional at work. Plus, he's married! Turn your affections toward someone who is single.
2007-11-28 21:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far away from this man, lest you commit adultery. He at least got some sense in his head and is avoiding you, the temptress. You know he is married, stay away from him.
2007-11-29 00:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋