i have a friend and sexual rumors going around on campus about her? but she denies it wat should i do or say?

Question

she feels bad about the stuff that i told her. i dont know what to say. i know she hangs wit alot of dudes on our campus.so i dont know if i believe her or not

its like everyone is constantly talking bout her..like alot people are approaching me. i need some advice to give her without sounding like a mother.

i told her because i didnt want it to get back to her and she say..u my friend u should have told me if you heard it!!!!
no its not my business about her life but she asking me for advice..i just need to know how to say things..im defending her

Answer 1

Who cares what anyone says. If she is your friend and is there for you as a friend should be then keep that great friendship you have. Just think, what if people start saying things about you. Should she stop being friends with you because of that?

Answer 2

She is your friend and you should beleive what she says to you and you should definately defend her becasue if she's a good friend she would do the same for you.

P.S.
I don't know what's being said so I can't tell you what to say to defend her. But just point out the things that make the rumor untrue when someone comes at you with the rumor or simply say that's not true. It's not your responsibility to go all out and prove it wrong or anything she's going to have to do that herself. But just try to be there for her because words don't hurt people physically but they do hurt people mentally. Depending on what the rumor is she can spread the truth or confront the people that started the rumor if she has an idea of who started it just confront them in a calm matter because if angry it will look like it's true. Whatever she does she has to act fast because the rumor will continue to spread.

Answer 3

this is her life, and what ever she is doing sexual is her business. She is making choices. You have told her the rumors, so back off. She'll either change, if they are true, or ignore them, if guys are just starting rumors.
I'm curious why you need to know about her sexual life, and if she is telling the truth or not. Friendship stops before the sexual parts of the body; be her friend, trust her and hopefully she'll not ask about your sexual life. Do unto others, etc.

Rumors are easy to start, and difficult to stop. I was accused once of being with men on a conference, even down to I was in the room with one of the men. Fact: I was being taken to a local hospital with severe bleeding and I had to have a cancer operation that week. The man who started the rumor was mad that I wouldn't bed down with him and created the rumor. I had a perfect alibi; I was dying. No man involved.
Another time, church friends(?) said that I was lesbian, because they never saw me with a date. Right, because I separate my love life from my spiritual life. I did nothing to explain, because my life personified who I was. I never slept around, and only jealous friends or men started them. I actually got a kick out of them, because my TRUE FRIENDS never doubted me for a moment, and we had laughs about all of it. Bored people do stupid things, like start gossip.

Answer 4

I once worked with a man, who was caught in a homosexual relationship, and forced to admit that he was gay. Some people shunned him after it came out, but I felt that he was the same person then, as he had been before. Whether or not the rumors are true, remember that she is your friend, and treat her the way you'd want to be treated, if the situation was reversed.

Answer 5

Guys like to talk a lot of crap trying to make THEMSELVES look macho and cool. If she is telling you it isn't true then you should listen to her. Some Men can be pretty cruel, and it could come down to the simple fact that she said NO to one of them so they started rumors about her. Just be her friend and assure her that it will be ok. If it doesn't stop I would take it up with the Schools administration or whomever is in charge of student affairs.

Answer 6

If she is your friend, have faith in her. People will always say things about people. How she lives her life is her business and unless it is hurting someone, it's none of their business. Why does it bother you what people say ? Why did you run and tell her? It is only mean gossip. If she is truly your friend, tell anyone that says anything to mind their own business. It's not nice to spread rumors.

Answer 7

come on seriously shes YOUR FRIEND! what are you gonna believe her or some rumors that anyone could have made up, just cuase she hangsout with lots of guys means completely nothing, there happens to many girls to hangout with guys these days(me happening to be one of them), some just can relate to them better i guess and guys really dont get into drama if stuff happens they just get over it in most cases,
seriously just believe her she is your friend and thats what friends do support each other and the chances are that is what she needs right now with all these rumors going around,

Answer 8

If she's your friend what difference does it make what people say, a true friend would stick by her. why is it necessary for you to repeat all you hear, tell others to mind their own business, its her life. If you really are her friend you will be there with a shoulder to cry on and reassurance that you are her friend regardless.

Answer 9

You're her friend. It's your duty to trust her until she has given you sufficient reason not to. Trust what she says, and tell her that you believe her. Combat the rumors if the opportunity arises.

Answer 10

If your close with her... she will tell you the truth.. so if it is the truth then you should tell her stuff like its not a big deal.. its just a rumor or things thatll cheer her up and those things.. well.. thats all i can offer... not much.. sorry