So i have this friend (age 17) that has this boyfriend (age 18)... After they had been going out for just a couple weeks i learned they had sex for the first time and she would also gave up her virginity.. well it took him a couple days b4 he finally talked her into it which she told me later that whenever she said no he would yell at her and make her feel like crap so she finally gave in so when they finally did it she just laid their bawling while he humped her.. this has happened a few time i believe.. what should I do? should I tell her parents..? i have no clue shes like my best friend and i dont want to lose her friendship over this but i also want to do what a good friend would do.. but right now im not sure what that is so you should help me out plz plz
2007-11-28 11:59:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She consented so its ok
2007-11-28 12:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's rape. He forced her into it by emotionally battering her. As for what you should do, it would probably best for you to tell, but be prepared for her to be unhappy about it.
For all you people on here saying that it isn't rape:
"The knowledge of the woman's person must be forcibly and against her will; and if her consent has not been voluntarily and freely given, (when she has the power to consent,) the offense will be complete, nor will any subsequent acquiescence on her part do away the guilt of the ravisher. A consent obtained from a woman by actual violence, BY DURESS or threats of murder, or by the administration of stupefying drugs, is not such a consent as will shield the offender, nor turn his crime into adultery or fornication."
In other words, if she gives consent under duress, it's still RAPE!!!!
2007-11-28 12:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not your business so keep your mouth shut. It's not date rape because she consented. It is however what's called "Statutory Rape" in which case one person is over the age of 17 and the other is under the age of 18. He can be arrested by the state. She doen't have to press charges, the police can. Unfortuantley they probably won't
Now, learn from this. Take her emotions into consideration when it's YOUR turn.
2007-11-28 12:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She consented to sex. That doesn't make it right, but it doesn't make it illegal or date rape either.
However, depending upon the AGE of consent where you live, it might be classified as statutory rape. Look into it.
It's difficult to help a friend that has such insecurity and low self-esteem. Just ask her if she believes that his actions reflect the behavior of someone who loves her. And if he doesn't love her, then why does she want to stay with him?
2007-11-28 12:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The last people she wants knowing is her parents. However, if its such a problem that it resorts to it, then parents is the way to go. You might want to ask her if she wants to do counseling or therapy. She should also make sure she's protecting herself, go to a planned parenthood, they can help or at least refer you to someone.
2007-11-28 12:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by goldnstar04 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless on weather or not this is rape or not, This is not a good realationship. He is pressuring her to do something she doesn't want to and he is allowing her to be hurt. If you don't tell her parents stand up for her by talking to him yourself, someone needs to!
2007-11-28 14:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by applegrower 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well unfortunately is cant be classed as rape as she gave consent but this does not make it right. he should not have pressure her into it and she should not have given in. i know your friend will be mad but tell your parents and talk to her parents, she will forgive you with time but at least her folks wont let him come around anymore or let them spend time together.
2007-11-28 12:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your friend does't have enough self-respect and has set no personal boundaries with this guy, she really needs help
tell her parents.. your friend is not using her head.
2007-11-28 12:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her parents because this is serious.
2007-11-28 12:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by ++++ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋