Hi gang,
I have a small question-
my partner is 9 weeks preginate, she has been driving me quite insane of late with her mood swings etc.
she has hightend smell sensitivity, low sex drive, don't even like kissing me properly anymore.
i tell her that she is beautiful, buy her flowers, nice underwear to make her feel sexy, cook her dinner, giver her massarges etc. it just don't seem to work.
I mean i can walk past her naked and she would not even notice me as she use to.
i don't know it just seems like she is pushing me away..
has anyone been through the same situations in ur journey- i'd love to hear your experiences and how you handled it.
2007-11-28 11:54:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh sweety , this is very very normal don't worry. You have to remember that your gf's whole body is going through hormone changes physically and mentally, trust me I know i'm 6.5 months pregnant and I'm exactly the same and yes it is out of our control, we when pregnant are an emotional time bomb and thats putting it politely.... my poor husband and 10 y.o has to put up with me day in day out....LOL. but none teh less tehy understand, and you know things will go back to normal after the baby is born..... good luck and enjoy it after that is!!!!.
2007-11-28 12:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tony,
Congratulations on your family to be. I understand what she is going through. Her hormones are raging and it's making her act in very strange ways. She does not physically feel well and does not want to be bothered by you or anyone. Do Not put yourself out to buy extra things, etc. She just needs assurance right now. She is not pushing you away. She is feeling sick. When a woman first gets pregnant the body is rejecting it and does not know what to do, so it reacts in the manner that your partner is at this moment. I acted this way the first pregnancy and was sick all the time until the 5th month of pregnancy. It will get better after time. She notices you and notices all the nice things you are doing. Please keep in mind that her body is changing both inside and out. Don't push it with the gifts and cooking, etc. Just be there for reassurance.
2007-11-28 20:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first 3 months is the worst. So many hormone changes in the body basically send you upside down. Things that you used to love to eat make you incredibily ill. You are exhausted all the time while this new human being takes hold in your body. Once you get past the 3 month mark the hormones start to level out and you are a bit more normal and your sex drive comes back again. This lasts until you become so large you couldn't image being intimate with anyone and lasts until about 6 weeks after the baby is born. Hang in there, life as you knew it will return to some sense of normalcy soon.
2007-11-28 19:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Little Italian Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm four months pregnant & you could be talking about me!! I feel so sorry for my partner at the moment - sex is the last thing on my mind, I've been sick, I'm tired, I feel fat & unattractive!
Sexy underwear, massages etc. wont work if you're using them to initiate sex - she is simply not in the mood - ever! I believe that will change but right now to me, having sex is akin to being on a boat in the high seas - I am so bloody nauseous I get sea sick watching the test pattern on the TV so don't try to get me writhing around in bed!!!
Be supportive of her, love her & don't expect anything from her physically. Her body is going through some amazing changes - something is growing inside her, living off her & altering her personality to some degree. At the same time she is putting on weight, her body shape is changing & if she's never carried excess weight before she could be scared & stressed about that.
I'm excited to be pregnant, I love my partner, however (& I know it sounds crazy) I'm insecure & I'm scared too. Society keeps telling me how "wonderful" being pregnant is & yet I'm still waiting for that bit where I'm "glowing" and looking "healthy"!!
Maybe your girl has a lot more things on her mind than you are considering. Try talking to her to let her know you're thinking about all the things that might be troubling her but whatever you do LAY OFF THE SEX TALK - it's the last thing she wants you to expect right now...be patient, it will happen.
Bless...
2007-11-28 20:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just get used to it. Its no big deal. Sometimes in pregnancy the hormones change. Dont feel left out it will pass. And after she has the baby just let her know how you felt. Try not to take things to seriously. I at one time had mood swings to, it just happends thats part of the pregnancy. Just let her know that you love her, and understand how hard the pregnancy might be, but you are trying your best to be there for her and sometimes you feel like she is pushing you away. Just let her know how you feel. Sit her down on a good day and talk to her.
2007-11-28 20:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by seximami110206 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure she loves you. Shes just going through changes with her body. I know its hard to put up with but trust me it gets better. Just stick it out the best you can for now. When your baby get here you will forget about all of this and have more important things to worry about.
2007-11-28 20:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a relationship issue, not necessarily behavior related to pregnancy per se. You should just talk with her openly about it. She may be depressed in general, sad about not being married (if that is the case, I don't know), wanted sex before to GET preggers and now is not so interested, who knows? Or maybe it really is hormones whacked out. But you should be asking her. Good luck
2007-11-28 20:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mom3Boys 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she can't help it. her hormones are going crazy and she probably doesn't even know that she is doing it. i went through the same thing. the doctor told me it can last up to 18 months after pregnancy. don't get too discouraged every woman is different, she might not go through it very long. talk to her doctor about it.
2007-11-28 20:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by savvy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. A lot of women have a hard time in the beginning and some all the way through but don't worry she will get back to her old self eventually!
2007-11-28 19:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! That is awfully early to be experiencing these things. Have you tried giving her oral sex? Reminding her that you love her is really important. Especially when she starts to show. For now, if the oral sex is not working, back off a little & be patient. Was the pregnancy planned?
Subscribe to parenting magazines. It will tell you what to expect step by step. They all have great info on raising kids as well.
Everyone is different, I loved sex during the first few months. I was extra wet, juicy & tight. But as my pregnacy went on, my boyfriend became mean & did mean things & said mean things & he wasn't there for me emotionally. When he wanted to have sex, it was a turn off & I lost attraction for him. Give her what she wants, her hormones may be raging but it is important to stick it out!
Good luck!
2007-11-28 20:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋