If my career is my own, why isn't my paycheck?

Question

I pay my fair half of the bills and I pay the full cost of my hobbies.
I cook and clean my fair share. I do my fair share of laundry and house hold chores.
Why should I share my paycheck?
What I earn is what I worked for not my wife.
So why isn't my paycheck mine?

Answer 1

pay your share and then put your wallet back in your pocket .......

Answer 2

good question if she works does she share her paycheck??? It is only fair in my eyes but then why do that anyways. When your married or I am assuming you are money should be together unless you agree in the beginning.One thing is for sure if you say NO to sharing and she leaves you then you have only 100% of your paycheck then.

Eleni: you need to talk to my wife cause she thinks that our business which we both work at together would not be split 50/50. She thinks that she does more than 50% so it is hers. Even when I say NO that is not what the courts will say she always seems to think she knows everything.

Answer 3

Is her paycheck her's? Is she allowed to pop for her hobbies? Does she cook and clean her share? You both agreed when you said I do that everything, down the the dirty little secrets was shared. Everyone wants something that's just their own, make a hobby or something else you do just for yourself. Money is something that you have to share, allow her a rainy day fund and one for yourself that is totally separate from the daily bills. But what you put into yours (provided it's budgeted that month) is yours, what she puts into her's is hers. What you worked for is for her, as much as for you, same as her paycheck. You work to SUPPORT eachother.
Money, sex are the main reasons for devorce. Don't let something as petty as money get in the way when it can be simplified.

Answer 4

Because you entered into a union TOGETHER and you are trying to be a family. It sounds like the two of you need to work on a budget and some general guidelines for spending money in a relationship.

Quick question, would you rather have your paycheck or your wife, because this post sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.

Answer 5

You should have discussed and agreed on how to divide finances before you got married.

Traditionally, all financed get pooled. Some marriages don't do that - but like whether or not to have children, it is best decided early on which way you want to go.

You guys are going to have to figure it out before you end up divorced as you sound pretty bitter.

Answer 6

Santa will place you in the good man list for caring and sharing what you work so hard for.

Answer 7

Look dude, as long as you arn't selfish and wanting EVERYTHING 50/50 like my unchilverous husband, then you should be fine. does she work also? I mean, make her feel loved by spending some money on her from time to time, but no, she is not entitled to your entire check.

Answer 8

you have to pay her for the s_ _.you said share that is not the whole thing, some men give the whole thing and willingly let her pay the bills with it.Be glad that's not you.

Answer 9

You should of thought of that before you got married....Ask a divorce attorney in your state. these questions...Also check to see if your in a community property state....

Your wife is entitled to half just because you took her as your wife...unless you drew up and signed a "Pre-Nuptial Agreement"

Good luck

Answer 10

lol.. because you need to share the bills... you share everything.. you pay half of the bills and the rest is yours, what's the problem?

Answer 11

Tell her it 50/50 she pays half of everything. She should work as hard as you.