The problem is, I always want to date someone for that sole purpose of giving them physical (sensual) pleasure and not because I actually like them. It is almost an obsession. I HATE to be touched, personally, and it seems difficult to find someone who would be okay with such. What is wrong with me?
2007-11-28 11:40:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
In a way, I think it is a way to have power over people because giving pleasure is something I can control. My attraction is all messed up because it can be men or women and there are no feelings involved, just the strong desire to satisfy them. Thanks for every answer and thanks for not judging!
2007-11-28 11:59:59 · update #1
There is no normal. There is nothing wrong with you unless you think there is. As long as this "obbsession" doesn't cause interference with your day to day life or in your personal life I would say don't worry about it. If it is something that you are conerned about then may guess would be that it stems from either low self-esteem or a unusual branch of alruistic behavior in which you feel the need to please people, in this case sexually. Again though as long as it doesn't interfere with your day to day life and you enjoy it, then don't worry about it. The only time something that like is wrong is when you think it is wrong.
2007-11-28 11:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Farstrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You may just not realize that your desire to make others feel good and not yourself is a way of punishing yourself for not caring about yourself. Maybe just waiting until you understand how wonderful a person you are is more important than hoping someone else will? I think you have simply confused being sexual with intimacy. Step back and take some time to learn what that is for you.
2007-11-28 19:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is like that and it's b/c here father was never there so she feels the need to go from man to man even though she has a man that loves her and wants to marry her. It's something that might take a while to put in the past. My question to you would be How was your child hood relationship with your father or a male figure?
2007-11-28 20:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by octobersoxs1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some pretty bad experiences yourself.
I suggest that you seek out a therapist as there seems to be much more than is written in your question.
2007-11-28 20:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Freckles... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋