do you have big age gaps within your children?

Question

my 25 year old son came up today to take his 3 year old sister out for the day to try bond.. he has a wife and child and he was a bit put out that she does not know who he is as we live a good distance from each other and both work, how do people get around this

thanks debs x

jen t..do thay all live at home

jen t..do thay all live at home

Answer 1

Not really - my daughers are 2+ years apart in age...My son is 5 yrs younger than the youngest daughter and 7+ yrs younger than the oldest [due to two marriages] They are all now 'peers' so to speak. :-)

Perhaps the oddest thing is my oldest grandchildren are from my youngest daughter; and my youngest grands are from my eldest daughter [she married late] - so my grands are 12 and 14 and 17 and 22 !

Answer 2

I don't have an age gap with my children; but, there is a 23 year age gap between me and my brother, now deceased, a 21 year age gap with one of my sisters and a 17 year gap with my other sister who was the youngest before I came along.

Never was close to my brother. He was over in the Philippines fighting WW2 when I came along. We never lived in the same house as brother and sister, and seldom in the same city really. My two sisters and my parents always said we were a lot alike, but I wouldn't know.

With my sisters, it has always been like I had three mothers. I don't know anything different, so it seems rather natural to me. We are close; and, each sister has a daughter that I am close to as well.

Answer 3

I have 4 brothers and sisters and between the first 3 there is only a one year difference. But the youngest brother in my family is 20 and then there is me - 14 - then I have a little sister who just turned 6. That's kind of a big gap. My brothers live all the way in California where they go to college. they only come during holidays and b-days. My older sister lives in Milan, Italy and she comes only during summer and we go there for Christmas. My little sister and I live with my mom and dad in New York. We don't see each other that much but when we get together as a family, its actually really great. You know how teens don't really want to be around their parents, well when u get the entire family together, that basically goes away and they bond real well. Don't think that the age difference between ur kids and the distance between u and ur son effect ur life. But ask him and his wife and kids to come as often as possible. Good luck and have a great holiday.

Answer 4

It's strange, isn't it, when somebody asks you if you have children? I say yes, a son aged 33 and a daughter aged 24. They say 'That's quite a gap' and I think why don't they use their imagination? We had our son easily, but after that it was much harder. My beloved wife had miscarriage after miscarriage. A doctor has to come out and see what's in the bucket to confirm it. It's HORRIBLE. But eventually, after a very routine D and C, my wife conceived and we had a beautiful daughter who is autistic, and who will never be able to live independently.
Maybe the only way to get round it is to just STOP PEOPLE ASKING. they often have no idea about all the sadness behind individual lives. I have worked as a teacher, I have worked in care homes, nursing homes, hospices, have been a volunteer for the Samaritans ... I think I have heard just about every terrible story, and there is nothing that shocks me anymore at all, but I will never stop being saddened...

Answer 5

i have 2 sons aged 9 and 2 1/2 and a daughter aged 3 1/2 so i had my son. had a break for six years then had 2 in 12 months! the only problem i have is my sons have to share a same room so its war every night whether Simpson's or bob the builder is going to be on in the bedroom!
i do feel a bit sorry for my oldest though as the little ones can play together and i think he sometimes feels left out.

Answer 6

To me, I wouldn't date a boy any older than two years older than me. Personally, I think any older is too much. If i'm 14 dating a 20 year old, it doesn't seem right. first, you're still maturing and second you can be pressured into things you don't want. Also, you may not even have anything in common if he's so much older than you. I have an older brother that's 2 1/2 years older than me. I can relate to him, so i think i would be able to relate to someone his age if i were to date him, but no one older than that. It's up to you, but YOU do what you please. If you really like a guy many years older and are happy, then go for it. but you have to make sure your HAPPY, not pleased. There is a big difference.

Answer 7

My two girls are 4 yrs apart. now they are 45 and 41. Two stepkids, both boys, 25 and 22. All married with kids of their own. One grandaughter that lived with me quite a lot while she was growing up and her mother was in the military, she is almost 18 now. So my kids are all old, never had a problem with big age gaps. But I'm sure it will all work out for your son and daughter, sounds like he is doing something about it. Good for him.

Answer 8

I only have one child, but my sister and I were 8 and 10 when my brother was born. I adored him and loved to take care of him when he was a baby. I left home when he was 10 though, so I missed a lot of his growing up years. We love each other, we just didn't have a lot in common as we grew older.

I had an uncle who was younger than me and an aunt 1 year older. I thought that was neat, we all grew up together.
With families living so far apart these days, it takes an effort to work things out-calls, e-mails, visits and it sounds like your son is trying. I think that's wonderful.

Answer 9

I don't Doll. My 2 children are 2 years apart but my husbands brother is 9 and is an uncle to our children. We don't live close but, make an effort to visit often and we all talk to him on the phone all the time. It's hard sometimes as life gets in the way and we always take tomorrow for granted.
Try and keep a space in all your diaries to all get together say, once a month or something.
Good luck with it Doll.x

Answer 10

My youngest is 21 yrs. younger than my oldest. They are 38, 36, 34, 25, 17. My daughter got married in November and I had her sister in March. My youngest child and my oldest granddaughter are 11 weeks apart. They all get along fine. The oldest daughter is a buttinsky who keeps up with everyone and doles out advice.

Answer 11

My two sons are only 22 months apart. Which turned out just right.
But in my immediate family my youngest brother is 17 years younger than me. I was just leaving the house as he was getting there. I feel bad that that I do not really know him as a person. I do not see him only occasionally.We don't have anything in common, or anything really to talk about.