My 15 year old neice (who is a vigin) was recommended by her doc to get a breast exam and full pelvic because of some issues. She is scared to death. She asked me today whether she would have to be naked in front of a stranger? How do I explain the whole process step by step to her so she isn't so afraid.
2007-11-28 11:19:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Just tell her that there is nothing to be afraid of. The doctors nurse will come in first and take down her information and family history, then she'll ask why she's there. Next the doctor will come in and talk to her about what he's gonna do. The doctor will leave the room and she'll have to put on a gown, but she can ask for a family member to be present during the exam if it will make her more comfortable.
The important thing to remember is that she needs to relax, otherwise the pelvic exam could be painful.
2007-11-28 11:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sweetie,
1st of all R never totally naked in front of him, Plus ther'll be a female present at all times 2 hold r hand, 4 the Dr's Safety & By-Law. Probley 1st he/u pull down the top of r gown, close r eyes if u don't wanna see his face & he'll go around each of r breasts 2 look 4 lumps. 2nd he'll ask u 2 move down to the end of table & put r feet up high in stir-ups, so 2 look for abnormalities with a Scope. Very uncomfortable so breath hard in & out & DON'T STOP till hes done cuz if u tighten up it'll hurt worse & that's wat the nurse is there 4 hold her hands
but don't break em jus keep breathing & DON'T TENSE UP!
Bring a headset with u & listen 2 music & relax the muscles down there in r abdomin. Maybe some blood after if virgin, I don't know wat he's doing, Pap Smear, etc. But the device going in is the "hardest part" And Sweetie, if u want u cud go with her & in the Examination Room for Moral Support if he say's OK? Be a nice cousin & tell her she owes u Big Time if you do. I know it'd relax her more, come on u were that age too. She'd love for it. I hope this info will be helpfull to her and I didn't leave out anythingelse u wanted to know? Good Luck.
LOL, Diana D
2007-11-28 12:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Diana D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is 15 she can have her Mom in the room so he is not so scarred. She should know that she can ask for a female GYN to help her feel less embarrassed, also let her know she will wear a dressing gown so she is mostly covered. A good GYN will reassure her and show her the tools as well as explaining prior to beginning so she is more comfortable with the process. Here is a site that explains the process and why it is done: http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/cervicaldysplasia/pcare.html
the site also details common questions and answers. I do recommend she see a female over a male since she is so young and embarrassed it will reduce her stress. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 11:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I had my first pelvic and breast exam...was very scary. However...you need to let her know that she doesn't have to go alone. An aunt or mom could go with her and she is not totally naked...they keep you draped at all times. it is kinda intimidating but if she is okay with the obgyn then she should be okay. I still get a little nervous going to the obgyn and I am 31 with 4 kids. Good luck. Remember that she can take someone to hold her hand if she wants to.
2007-11-28 11:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by jamalyn_kahaleny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it is a woman gyno who you also see. Tell her about what happens-like the breast exam and the pelvic exam and be pretty truthful. My gyno makes sure that I am never completely "naked"- under the drape and gown. She reaches under the garmets to do the exam and just "peeks" under them for a visual exam. Remind your niece that the gyno sees hundreds of women a week and is not there to judge her body. All the gyno is looking for is to make sure that she is healthy. My gyno--and all shoud do this--asks me questions about what is going on in my life to distract me during the exam and tells everything before she does it. Mostly, just reassure your niece that while it may be uncomfortable, it is not painful, and every woman should have been there yet none of us have died of embarrasment.
2007-11-28 11:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should tell her it is no big deal which may be hard to believe. But really if she is afraid of a male touching her that maybe you should ask for a female physician to examine the poor thing.
GOOD LUCK
2007-11-28 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know but im going to the gyno for my first time and im scarred, and im 17
2007-11-28 11:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋