At school I have a lot of friends and they are REALLY important to me, but one of my newest friends acts really weird sometimes. I met her on our first day and we are really good friends but she's always putting me down and telling me bad things about myself and I don't know if she's just messing around or what. She's always trying to make herself look like she's better than me and that she has more friends than I do. Usually I just laugh along because I don't know if she's being serious or not but it really hurts my feelings and I haven't got that much self esteem anyways. Sometimes I even start to believe what she says! What should I do????
2007-11-28 11:19:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I was young we had a saying "With friends like her, who needs enemies?" A real friend makes you feel good about yourself, not bad about yourself. Maybe you need to consider her and acquaintance, but not a friend. REAL friends are few and far between.
2007-11-28 11:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she starts "messing around" like that you should get mad. Tell her she is better than you and you know it so stop putting you down. You don`t need a friend like her and that you are going to tell all of your other friends about the way she talks about you. Then just walk away. If she is any kind of a friend, she will apologise and stop acting like a snob. If she doesn`t, you are definately better off with out her friendship.
Being someone`s whipping girl is not good for your self esteem and so either way you will not have much. But you will have your self respect. Don`t let anyone take that away from you.
2007-11-28 11:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, well this is a normal middle school crisis I have! lol i had the same issue with a girl she said i was fat and i am 85 pounds and 5ft 3 and i am 12. she weighs in her 60s though.... and is about the same as those and is a stick but eats a lot.... she is probably really jealous of you because you are better in someting than she is ... dont let it ruin you. Ignore it girl because i am sure you are really a nice person and last year I would always laugh around with her to but feel bad inside!! its not fun ... she turned out to end up never talking to me and calling me a wannabe and a bunch of names probably cuz she is the wannabe and trying to be popular cuz she is....I am not though and I am happy with it!! This girl might be nice though.... it depends .. maybe she feels jealous cuz you have so much friends and she doesn't...
If she just keeps doing that and trying to seem more important than you and puts you down I would try not to hang around her anymore .... I was hurt really bad by someone like that....
Best wishes!!
teenstarlet@yahoo.com
2007-11-28 11:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your friend a true friend uplifts and never tears down. If you wish for the friendship to continue you must privately tell her how she makes you feel. A friend would understand. On the other hand she may be jealous of you and that's why she does that. I have learned that when people are insecure about themselves they will say things out of the way to others. Know that there is nothing wrong with you at all. Know yourself. You will find in life people always say things they sometimes have no business saying at all.
2007-11-28 11:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's very insecure. A lot of times when people put others down for no reason at all, it's because they don't think very highly of themselves. I think next time she puts you down, you should say something. Tell her that it seems like she's putting you down and that you don't think it's funny when she does that. Tell her it actually hurts your feelings, and that friends don't do that to each other. Please stick up for yourself, if she doesn't take you seriously then quit hanging out with her. Find friends that make you feel good about yourself, that will help your self confidence a whole lot more.
2007-11-28 11:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lunachit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me ask you-
do you really want to spend your whole friendship with her? picture that you are stuck with her a whole day, would you like it? if not, then maybe it's time to take her down a notch in the friendship line. and if she jokes abuot something don't laugh along, ask what you want, "was that just a joke, or were you serious?" or "that was offensive, was it a joke?"
anbd maybe this acting is a way for her to feel okay. don't let her. teach her that being mean isn't hte answer
2007-11-28 11:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My used to be bestfriend was like that! I was there for her for 5 years put up with her whining about how she can't choose a guy while she makes fun of me not having a date for anything. But i didn't let it bother me and don't belive it you know she is jeleous! She is trying to prove to herself that she is better then you which might be wrong.
2007-11-28 11:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to stay away from her and if she says hi or some thing just say hi back and if she keeps bugging you just say are you joking around or being serious cause it hearts my feelings and if she says serious don't be her friend any more!>=[ HOPE IT HELPS!=]
2007-11-28 11:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her.
True friends are honest...
tell her what's bothering you and express how it's really hurting you how she's stepping on you.
And if she is just trying to put you down to put herself up it's better off if you guys are not friends.
REMEMBER...ENHANCE THE HONESTY PART.
2007-11-28 11:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't pay them any mind, i've got people at work that ack like this, they think they are everything
2007-11-28 11:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋