i'll try to keep this simple. my husband is in new jersey. His wife is in Arizona and we both in Georgia, work for the same company. Complicated part, this man is my baby father, my ex from three years ago. We all move around a lot because of our career,( military) Now i done lied to my husband before and he forgave and then married me that was just last year. I've never stopped loving my baby father, he knows that, but he trusted me. I want to stop this, i really do but you know woman always make decisions with their heart, not their mind. My husband is a great guy, I wish i could feel for him what i feel for my ex. I also dont wanna be wrecking another woman home. I dont know what to do.
2007-11-28 11:03:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my baby father wife is in arizona.
I know my ex and i loved each other it's just that at that time we were both so young i was nineteen and he was twenty two. we still young, i just turn 23. So should i just stay with my husband even though i know its gonna take a while for me to love him the way he deserves to be loved.
Before he was my husband he was my best friend, i've known him since high school. He knew about my baby daddy and he knows i still love him.
My baby father was my first true love, the first guy i ever truly loved.
2007-11-28 11:32:50 · update #1
Isn't it always so much easier to love a man that you're not around all the time? Why? Because he's not your husband. He's automatically going to be much more exciting to you than the guy that you live with.
Wow, what a complicated state of affairs, though. I don't know how you can possibly let go of this guy and love your husband...even as much as you want to. I think the best thing to do is also the hardest--you'd need to cut off contact with your married ex. But I don't think that's going to happen, though. As long as you're still fooling around with him, then you're not really going to give your husband much of a chance to be the right one for you.
2007-11-28 11:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if your ex has children with his present wife. Military is a great career but your story is very common in military or any lifestyle that takes spouses away for an extended period of time, plus there are many temptations and opportunities. Basically, the same thing happened to me, both guys were in the military, one went to war, broke our engagement night before he left, I was hurt and mad and married a guy who just came back from the war, (married for spite), then the first guy who I really loved came back from the war, I saw him the first night home, and I got pregnant while still married to the guy I didn't love. Two weeks before the due date, I decided to tell the man I loved, couldn't reach him so called his best buddy asking if he knew where I could reach him--he said, "Oh, did you know he's getting married next week?" Well, I decided not to mess up his life that he must love her or wouldn't be marrying her... WRONG!!! But it was 15 years later before I ever found that out... It's such a long story but it's not too late for you. DON'T WAIT TO TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE AND YOUR CHILDS FATHER! By the way, the war I am referring to isn't Iraq or Desert Storm, it was Viet Nam. So, you are hearing this from someone who has plenty of life experiences, almost feel like an expert on some topics. But I have been right in your shoes. My daughter now has a wonderful relationship with her father and he has made such a difference in her life. I think because of my mistakes, he was always afraid I would hurt him again. So, just take my advice and follow your heart this time, you have a child together and I don't want you to have the regrets that I do...
2007-11-28 11:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by carolcoleman123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, your baby daddy has a wife or your husband has another wife? Thats unclear. Look, there will always be strong feelings for your ex because you share a child together, but you need to move on the best you can or else you are going to end up in a horrible situation. Your current husband could leave and then you will have your wish..be with the ex..and it could be AWFUL. Just stop playing with fire and try to do the right thing. Be married and faithful, karma is true and it will bite you in the butt if you are not careful!! Good luck
2007-11-28 11:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did love your husband enough to marry him, didn't you? And why the hell do you have a myspace account anyway, it is NOT something for married people to have unless it's an account that both you and your husband use to stay in touch with family and not for ex's. It has been well said that grass is always greener on the other side but this other side that you have in mind does not exist. Should you go to your ex, he will never forget how he got you back. Could you possibly assure him that you would not it to him and go back to your ex-husband. He will never trust you and quite honestly, you will deserve every bit of it. With your ex-boyfriend you do not have to deal with life, it's a fantasy in your mind and should it become a reality, it would be a lot worse than what you are going through now. Common sense would tell you that you must NEVER speak to your ex again. BUT I have a feeling that you are way too stupid to comprehend any of this till it's going to be TOO late.
2016-04-06 02:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to sit down and breath.
it is alot to think about but, keep in mind, you are the one who made the choice to marry another man and he made the choice to marry another woman. Vows should never be taken lightly.
You need to keep your thoughts straight.
Is it lust or love.
Sounds like lust with the baby's father and love with your man.
Don't hurt him that way.
It will weigh on your mind for the rest of your life.
2007-11-28 11:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by idiots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me.... you will not be happy, whether it's with your hubby, Ex or any other person for that matter. You are after the forbidden fruit.... but once you have it, you loose interest.
Do Man-kind a favor, divorce your husband and don't marry anyone else...why are you spoiling their lives. Married and cheating.....cheez.......
2007-11-28 11:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by metallica rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts but you need to let you find things that are better in your new hubby love him for who he is and adore him for he loves you and you should no this care about him with all of your heart even thought you can't give him yourself and stop thinking about the other.
2007-11-28 11:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like a dog in heat and do the right thing...Drop the married guy and be true to your hubby, or divorce him and live alone,,,but don't wreck some one else life..JEEZ.....cheating and cheaters SUCK!
2007-11-28 11:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am US Army wife 31 years.....Go on Army post to Army Community Services counselor or Army base Chaplain and talk to them about this...
You need good counseling first before you decide what to do....
Good Luck
2007-11-28 11:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not watching. This is like reading an episode of Jerry Springer
2007-11-28 11:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by ppkoo7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋