We got into an argument about him having his jaw open and looking at other women, I was jealous and he got REALLY upset with me. He says that he does the same things and more for me, I just don't hear him...and he always looks me in the eye and tells me, "You are the most beautiful woman in the world to me" so for me to be jealous of those other women he just looked at was ridiculous and made him feel like I didn't believe him, trust him or believe in us enough to know how much he loves me, my body included. That he has never asked me to change anything about me, but to wear less make-up. Now he hardly talks, he won't let me touch him, and he says he needs a couple days to figure things out...but it doesn't mean he is leaving or doesn't love me. Then he made sure I had everything I needed for those couple days and said "I love you" before he left. I feel so stupid. I let my insecurities push him away. How do I fix this? I hate knowing I made him feel this way. What do I do?
2007-11-28 11:00:51 · 14 answers · asked by hny_rstd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was being weird about, I wasn't upset that he looked at another woman... I was jealous that I felt like he didn't look at me that way. That because of my body I didn't turn me on, or make him feel like dropping his jaw like the woman he looked at...to make it worse...it was a woman on tv. We can point out handsome men or beautiful women to each other all day...no problems. It was that split moment, when I saw his jaw drop, I wanted him to look at me like that....not realizing that he has. Yes, I do think it was silly and completely uncalled for...but thats what makes it hurt more....knowing I hurt him over nothing. Especially when there is no doubt in my mind he loves me. No thought that he is with anyone else. He has given and done so much for our family, for me. I know it hurt him...I just don't know how to fix it.
2007-11-28 11:24:22 · update #1
I'm reading this and not understanding what you did that was so bad! Sorry, just my input..
2007-11-28 11:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by boohoo1964 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to not get so upset about your guy looking at other women. Looking is very normal. He had to look in order to find you.
Also, women don't pay attention to what guys say anyway and they think we are lying when we pay compliments you ya'll.
Years ago I told my wife every morning how beautiful she was. She told me I was just telling her that. I also sent her roses once a week; with a card that read "You brighten my world, here is something to brighten yours". She asked me to please stop sending her roses all the time.
I am still married, 14 years, and still think my wife is beautiful, even after two children, but I don't tell her any more and she asks me why I never say she's beautiful and why don't I ever bring her flowers.
Women in general at beautiful. Women drive me crazy, I could just sit on a step and watch women all day. When it's time to go home I will still go home to my wife.
2007-11-28 19:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by pacemark5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Total overeaction I bet if your jaw dropped when you saw a hot guy he would have made the same comment tell him that it just upset you that he would gauck at another woman right in front of you. I think if I'm with you I should be the only one your looking at. He was being rude and insensitive and if anything he needs to apologize for being a jerk. tell him if the tables were turned that he would have reacted the same way and that he needs to apologize for overeacting and being a complete idiot.
God Bless and Best Wishes
2007-11-28 19:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to people watch, which sounds like what he was doing too. I am amazed at some of the things girls wear now-a-days and I even point them out to my girlfriend if I have one at that time. He must have felt comfortable enough with you to share his feelings and was hurt when you said what you did. If you give him a couple of days I am sure he will come back. Make sure when he does you talk about this subject. You should try to hear his side of the story too.
2007-11-28 19:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by G Money 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not nag or bother him and give him his space...just like he asked. In my opinion this is not even close to being serious enough for him to need some time, geez whats he gonna do when something major comes up??? If I were you I'd be concerned with his coping skills, they seem pretty lame! OR he's using this as an excuse to get away from you.
2007-11-28 19:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok my husband has looked at another chicks butt, that really bothered me and i cried. i was very very insecure, but i have him and the sex is great. i know how hard it is to let insecurities push someone. now i just laugh about when he looked at that girl. just breath and talk it out with him. tell him sorry even though it may not be your fault at all. and if he comes back and is still the same find someone who will not make you feel insecure. it will be alright just talk with him one on one. get the feelings out there to where you can come to an understanding.
2007-11-28 19:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are over reacting and by what i can read you are starting to suffocate him and maybe that is why he seems distant. Give him a break, the more you tug to him the less he ll want to be around especially if you are constantly whining about something. give it a break, make him want you, make him come back to you ... by the way we all look at other women big deal we don't touch and fantasy does only one thing makes us want to come home to our wives faster and earlier. good luck.
2007-11-28 19:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well men or women will always look at other people but that does not mean they dont love you. It just silly to be upset about looking as long as there not touching anyone else.
2007-11-28 19:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by kevin02915 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't beat yourself up. Your instincts are probably right. My ex bf said I was nuts to be jealous of 3 girls he talked to. It turned out he had already f***ed one, and really really wants to do the other two. Right now he is pursuing one of those two. By the way he is 31 years older than her.
2007-11-28 19:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds like he is over reacting, I get poed when my husband tells me to dress more conservatively ( I have a large chest and some shirts just dont' work on me unless I am going to a bar, hehe) and then when we are out to dinner, who does he check out? Mrs. In light blue mini skirt and halter top with butt cheeks showing. So I told him, you tell me to dress conservative but what do you look at?! Just be nice to him, he'll get over it, maybe he felt guilty for making you jealous. It will be ok soon :)
2007-11-28 19:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him and talk to him, if he loves you then he won't leave u 4 sumthin as dumb as this. It's ok 4 guys to b astonished at how hot sumone is, not to be sexist, but it reminds me of sumthen my dad once told me: u can look at the merchandice but u can't touch it.
2007-11-28 19:35:59 · answer #11 · answered by Sage of Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋