Why does it always happen to me?

Question

I am a very shy girl in class and there's this girl who sat just behind me and everytime she push my chair and it hurts me a lot... And every time i kind of tell her to stop but she continue to push me many times.
I was thinking of telling the teacher....
Some people outside of school told me to take action like slap this girl. And i was like, i won't be able to do that. Nobody in my class is my true friend.... Everyone in my class are white and i'm the only indian girl.

Plz help me in that situation.
Thank you very much!!!

Answer 1

The teacher will want to know why you want your seat moved, if you don't give her/him a reason.
It could be happening to you because of your race, or it could be happening to you because of the attitude you are projecting. If you do not project confidence, people (like dogs) will sense that you are weak and pick on you.
If she were to do that to me, I would tell her to stop and not do it again in a very loud voice so that the teacher hears. Unfortunately, if you do this, you have to be prepared for her abuse to escalate outside of the classroom because you have taken a stand against her and made her look bad to other people.
However, by showing that you are not afraid of her, you may earn the respect of others and gain some allies who may also have been on the receiving end of her abuse.
Don't ever slap her or fight her; just bring attention to her bad behavior.
Stand up for yourself. Don't ever just put up with it.

Answer 2

Ask the teacher to move you, and consider asking her to talk to the other girl. The teacher will, at the very least, move you into another place in the class room without making it too obvious. Actually, this same thing happened to me back in high school( freshman year) and the teacher did an incredible job of making it look like she was just trying to even out the seating distribution in the class.

In any event, don't feel discouraged just because you're not the same race as the other kids in school. If this girl is mean, I'm sure others are just as fed up with her as you are. If all else fails, just do your absolute best to ignore her and make her feel like she's not making any impact on you. She probably enjoys making you react to her, and it'll devastate her if she doesn't even get you to turn around after a full day of bullying. I know how unappealing that might sound, but it has, in my experience, proven to be a really good way to get back at someone when they're trying to hurt you.

Answer 3

just to ask you one question..I was wondering when this happens do any other students tell that racist girl to cut it out. By the way i suggest that you tell on her..cuz think about it..what if someone else is being bullied by her..if you tell on her you'll be standing up for the others who get bullied and they will become friends with you. And if you think that this will make it worse than tell the teacher about the situation and also tell the teacher that if she confronts that racist bully girl than don't say that YOU told the teacher..just tell the teacher to talk to that girl and say that a lot of people have been complaining about her. or talk to a counselor..but i am just saying DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS SITUATION BE4 ANYTHING ELSE HAPPENS! Also talk to your counselor about racism in your school. cuz I think it seems like your whole class is racist cuz you didn't mention the fact that other people in ur class stood up for you or even tried to help you.

Answer 4

I understand how you feel. The best thing is to tell the teacher cause maybe she hasn't notice what this girl is doing to you regularly. Tell the teacher to change places with another girl that is normal and will respect you. I am sorry to hear nobody in your class is your true friend. I will pray for you. I am sure someday soon everything is gonna change and you will find all the happiness you deserve.

Answer 5

you can still be shy and stand up for yourself. I wouldn't retaliate or do anything like that. I'd just let the teacher know that you have been having problems with this girl and that you would like the issue to stop. if more issues arise go to the teacher again. The school officials are supposed to protect you.

It also shouldn't matter that you are an Indian, you should be proud of your heritage. (at least you are not a mutt like most of us white folks)

when you tell her to stop be firm in how you say it, say it a little loud, to make sure that she knows you are serious. Also don't be afraid.

Answer 6

I know what is to be picked on in school, when I didn't even do anything wrong. I believe your best bet is to let the teacher know that you would like to move to another seat. If they ask why tell them.
Or, You could just turn around in the middle of class when she does it again and say real Loud ". HOW MANY DAMN TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU LEAVE ME ALONE. I AM NOT BOTHERING YOU. I AM REALLY SORRY IF SEATING BEHIND ME BOTHERS YOU SO MUCH, SO IF YOU DON'T LIKE SEATING BEHIND ME THEN MOVE!" That should really be embrassing her not only that but get the Teacher's attendtion.

Answer 7

aww poor you. the same kind of thing happens in my P.E class. there's this girl and she's mean to everyone. when our class has to run, i'll be running beside her and she'll be like: HEY!!! GET OUT OF MY WAY, YOU'RE IN MY WAY!
the only way to get her to stop is not to go down to her level. this will just make her even more mad
try aggreeing with her. at a certain point, she'll be like this is boring. im going
if that doesnt work say something like "I'd take social skills over brute strength and idiocy any day, thank you very much."
if youre worried youre going to get into a fight, learn self defence or kickboxing.
also try to be assertive.not agressive, assertive

Answer 8

If I was you, I'd have a serious talk with your teacher, alone. I'd tell her what is going on, but you don't want the class to know you "told" since it would make it worse. See if she can re-arrange all the seating arrangements. And have you sit in the back row so no one can touch your seat. Also, kill them with kindness. Let them know that you are a nice girl and their problems won't get in your way! Good luck!!

Answer 9

If you don't want to listen to every one else, and she won't stop when you ask her to, you need to get up and move next time. If she does it once, you ask her to stop, if she does it again make eye contact, don't glare, but don't break eye contact, and walk away to a different seat. If the teacher asks you to move back tell the teacher that siting in front of that girl is making you extremely uncomfortable and that you cant concentrate.

Answer 10

You will have to stand up for yourself, but not go to the teacher. You can do it one of two ways - you'll stand up in class and yell "what is your problem??" or catch her before class and tell her if she does it, you'll beat the crap out of her. You will have to do that, or else the power will go to her head, and she will continue and it will get worse.