The reson i came to this site is because sometimes i am sad, feeling down, worried, need general advice or just want to shear my happines. I also came to help people the way i can.
I posted a quetion earlier saying that i am worried about beeing able to concive as i had an abortion when i was 16.People strated saying that they wish i never have a child again because i killed one. nobody knows my whole story.
I got pregnant when i was 16 with my current bf, i was using birth control pills, so it was an accident. I cried a lot thinking that i want the best for my child and i cant offer him anyting, my mum said she will be there for me but it was not enough, i wanted to finish scool and get a good job so i could offer my kids everything. So i decided is better this way. My first abortion was not done propely and i had really bad problems, i have not been able to move from bed for a month, i needed a secont procedure. i feel bad enough for what i did and i dont need people judgin me.
2007-11-28 10:17:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
now i am trying to get pregnant as i just finished all the way my school and i am bale to offer my kid everything. But i am scared that my first abortion will give me problems.
I am waiting for a at least an '' i am sorry'' for what i said to you....
2007-11-28 10:19:12 · update #1
You're going to wait a long time for anyone who is judging you to apologize...I don't agree with abortion but I won't judge your choice...i will only tell you that there are a lot of documented cases where poorly performed abortions have caused women to battle fertility/conception issues later in life. Best thing for you to do is take care of your body and health and follow doctor's orders...I hope that you will be able to conceive and share the joys of pregnancy....
God bless you!
2007-11-28 10:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Notagain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. Abortion is not an easy thing to do, been there. At the time it seemed like the right thing to do, wasn't the right time and I cried for weeks afterward and during the procedure. Still think about it to this day and I didn't have any problems like you did, and it's been 5 years. I am now pregnant for the second time since then, have a 2 year old and one on the way, if god wanted to punish me I wouldn't have been able to have kids. So if god can forgive, so then you can forgive yourself in knowing you did what you thought was right, doesn't mean everyone out there will agree with you. And if you are meant to have more kids it'll happen, but be patient, might take awhile. I forgave myself, but I will never forget it, was the worst thing I ever experienced and will never experience it again. So good luck and believe everything happens for a reason!!
2007-11-28 10:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry you have received answers that are not helping you but causing you more confusion and emotional pain, I also thank God i was not one of them. You should be able to ask a question and get a civil answer, one that is constructive and not demeaning. Unfortunately, people being who they are, some tend to use this forum as a bashing session, why? Not sure, maybe to make themselves feel better. But you just hang in there now, and ignore them. Don't leave the sight because of them. Use it,there are folks who do care.I am one!
Not sure that i can help you, i mean, i have no idea if you can still conceive, your Dr could tell you. But no matter why you got an abortion, it was your personal decision. Let a Dr help you now, and i wish you good luck!
2007-11-28 10:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by do.drop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with you. There are far to many overly opinionated people out there trying to force their beliefs on everyone else. It is not needed or appreciated. We ask questions here not because we are stupid but because we are hoping that there will be someone out there that has been through or is going through the same situation/s that we are/did, that might be able to offer insight, support, advice, understanding or even sympathy on the situation. Please don't let those horrible people discourage you from asking questions as there are some genuinely helpful, understanding, supportive people out there with some great advice. If you really want to start trying for a baby but have these fears, go to your Dr and let them know your intentions. They can give you a complete checkup and help you every step of the way with any problems that may arise. I wish you the best of luck and hope all your Dreams come true.
2007-11-28 11:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
many people have firm beliefs about abortions. i, personally, am pro-life. but i wont go into that. i don't understand some of the people on this site. i think they abuse what it is intended for. but as will all forum type places you will run into those mean, judgmental people. you should have thought about it before putting something so raw out there. especially with such a sensitive subject. its typical for people to lash out. don't take it personally. I'm sure they all have done things in their lives that they are particularly proud of. anyway i am sorry that you received such negative feedback. i believe that everyone deserves to be treated with respect regardless of the circumstances. i hope you feel that have respectfully answered your question. as for you being worried about complications from getting pregnant again, you probably will have some complications. whether they are minor or major is another thing. some woman who have had abortions are not capable of supporting a fetus. you could always consult a medical doctor or preferably a specialist like a gynecologist who would be able to help you figure out the best way for you to have children. well good luck to you and i hope that everything turns out for the best.
everyone deserves a second chance ;)
your baby second chance was heaven!!
2007-11-28 10:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by RJG♥4ever 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People can be so hurtful. The funny thing is that it's often the same idiots who critisise abortion and support the death penality. Don't let it get you down. I bet that the people that were horrible to you would have been just as critical if you had a baby and had been a single mom at 16. I was having sex at 16 myself I was just lucky that I didn't end up in your situation as I would not want to have had to make that decision. Best of luck wit conceving.
2007-11-28 10:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kels_Bells 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. I'm sorry about your bad experience. I am very anti-abortion but I would never play the judge and jury. I am not to know what is in your heart so I cannot assume what God has planned for you. I am sorry that others feel that they can say such evil things to you. The true Christian thing is to let others know that they have sinned and then forgive them completely.
As for the pregnancy, if your womb isn't too scarred, there should be little problem as long as your doctor says that you healed properly. I will pray that you are able to carry to term.
2007-11-28 10:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people have strong opinions and some people have nothing better to do.
Don't let them get to you, but remember, this is the real world and things aren't easy.
I'm 15 now and 38 weeks pregnant.
I did not chose an abortion because I believe it s wrong.
However, I'm not going to judge you - I don't know you or your circumstances and I, unlike some people on here, have better things to do than upset people over the internet.
Good luck with trying to conceive.
I hope God blesses you with a child.
2007-11-28 10:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Diddz-xx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you make a mistake once you learn & grow from it I would never have an abortion I dont belieive in that. But I hope all goes well with your pregnancy dont worry about the negative things focus on the positive things & focus having your new child because its another human being that is gonna need all your love & attention to grow strong in this crazy world.
2007-11-28 10:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by kitiok9431 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I come on here to answer questions. I try not to judge people, because like you said, I don't know the circumstances. There are a lot of people on this site who judge everybody, as if they are perfect. All I can say is ignore the mean ones, and listen to the helpful ones. Just like life in general!
2007-11-28 10:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋