What usually becomes of kids that?

Question

get bullied,and told they are not good enough?

Also kids that grow up around an abusive household?

I know a girl that is 16 years old, and when she was younger her father was a raging alcholic/drughead. All through out her school days she was told her sister was way prettier than her and critisized on a daily basis.

How am i supposed to help her with this?

Answer 1

If a child grows up thinking that he or she is not good enough they will develop a complex.
When a child grows up in an abusive household and only sees violence then that child will act upon violence.

As she grows up from an alcoholic and drug head father she might see look for these traits in her future male relationships. Nevertheless she might have no respect for male authority.

If she is never give positive encouragement then she will never think positive of herself.
When she see her sister get all the attention then that might make her resentful of her sister and create animosity.
The best thing you can do as her friend is be there for her, for support! A shoulder to cry on!
And if she is getting abused then that becomes a matter greater than you can handle and needs professional help

Answer 2

This really depends on the person. Some people are just better able to cope with these things than others. Some people turn to drugs and alcohol, while others don't. I have a friend like yours and she was a straight-A student throughout her school years and is now in college and engaged to a great guy. She does seem to be depressed, but overall she has a good life.

You should talk to your friend about her feelings. If she's feeling depressed, tell her to talk to a school counselor. There are way too many teens these days that commit suicide, or murder, because of being bullied and abused.

Answer 3

There are all kinds of things that they could grow up/ turn out to be. Most likely she will have some insecurity issues in the least. Some people take their pain from childhood and use it as a crutch or an excuse to be f-ed up forever and drink and do drugs and become not-so-good people. But I also know some people that take their pain and use it to strengthen themselves and it drives them to make a better person of themselves and their lives and become extremely successful and well adjusted adults. I wish I could tell you what she will become but I've seen many people from abusive homes that as they got older, are at complete opposite ends of the spectrum.
Is she tough? Strong? Does she know that the way she is being treated and spoken to is not right? Or does she believe them when they say terrible things to her like that? And let it get her down? (Side note: I REALLY can't believe the way some people raise and treat their children. The physical and psychological torture some people are put through, by their own parents!!, growing up just absolutely sickens and saddens me greatly. I just don't understand how people can treat anyone, let alone their own flesh and blood like that)
I would get pofessional advice from a counselor on what to do.
As her friend just support her and help make her stronger. Give her praise, encouragement, and remind her that what doesn't kill her, only makes her stronger. And that she should take this negativity in her life and use it to direct herself into knowing what NOT to be.
Good luck, and God Bless!

Answer 4

I would recommend that you support her and to also get help. I mean get someone to help fight those bullies. But the criticizing that is bad enough. I would just ignore it. Just believe that you are better than them and leave it alone. Don't listen to them at all. The more they try to tell you that, but you ignore they tend to get tired of it and will eventually stop. Her father wow I would already left by then anyways I would have complained to someone about that and will be sent to a foster parents if they were bad too I will complained until I get a better parent. Also have friends stand by her side this helps with her self esteem its like group vs group thing..Hehe it helps build that esteem and confidence.

Answer 5

I suffered through everyone telling me I was ugly and not good enough...even my parents. I am now 21. I have a lot of self-image issues, but luckily I have a wonderful, understanding husband who helps me through it. He has helped me so much, now I mostly have positive days, but he is there for me if I slip back into the negativity! She needs someone to talk to. Be honest with her in everything you say. Don't sugarcoat things. Don't tell her she's pretty unless you mean it. If you don't mean it, she won't believe it. Watch out for depression, when I was that age, I wanted to kill myself. Mainly just be there for her. Eventually, hopefully she will realize that she is a wonderful person and deserving of love and respect.

Answer 6

Hell, I've been through both. I was always bullied in grade school. At home I suffer from emotional abuse, not physical. I'm extremely unconfident. I hate myself and am constantly miserable. I hate seeing other people with their girlfriends, it pisses me off. I've never dated anyone (I'm 18). I'm a loner, and go out alot by myself. I hate not having someone around, and I've started going out with my friends more and more. I started smoking to handle the stress, and now abuse drugs and alcohol on a semi-regular basis. I'm still smart, but not motivated. Anymore, I don't really care what I do, as long as I get out of my house. This is what happens.

What can you do? Be a good friend. Have that person over to your house a lot, and go out with them. Include them with your other friends. Call them on the phone, be there for them. Stick up for them in school. Just do a lot with them - its helps to get their mind off of things. Just having someone there is really important. Also, work to boost their confidence. Maybe get a couple guy friends to compliment her on her looks. Maybe find someone who will date her. Just be a really good friend, and be understanding of what she is going through.

Answer 7

You need to tell her to talk to a school counselor. This is not a healthy growing environment for anyone. This is going to kill any self-esteem she has in herself.

Tell her that she is pretty regardless of what kind of crap people try to tell her. Be there for your friend if anything should happen to her as far as a living situation is concerned.

Pray with her and for her, too! Hope this helps!

Jesus loves you and your friend :)

Answer 8

She needs to get counselling. This sort of behaviour is destructive, damaging and can have serious ramifications later in life. I hope all goes well, whoever she is.

Answer 9

some kids dealing with that think of suicide. so talk to friend get her some help your parents or a school counsler. before she thinks about suicide.

Answer 10

be there for her because no one else can, make her feel better bout hersle
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