it hurts me to write this but i cant really think clearly and i need someones advice that doesnt know me , anyways my friends threw a party while i was away for thanksgiving and when i came home my really good friend steph told me that my best friend amanda slept with my boyfriend lucas ,i didnt believe it but steph took pictures of them making out and someone had actually filmed them and i couldnt believe it , now they both are sending me e-mails calling my phone and i dont know what to do ! im trying to calm down because if i see either one of them i dont know what i'll do, i know i cant ever be with him again or be her friend anymore i just dont know how im suppose to let go when it feels like they both stabbed me in my front and my back.
2007-11-28 09:46:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey let them have thier fun ignore them, and karma will come back and get them, move on and find some that will appriciate you.
2007-11-28 09:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one.
The first thing you need to do is get rid of the boyfriend. I know it doesn't seem like it now but boys come and go. You will find one that is worthy of you. You don't deserve someone who would do that to you.
Then I would definitely speak to Amanda about this face to face. Give her the opportunity to come clean to you. You then need to decide if this friendship can be salvaged. If you two have been friends for a long time maybe it can be. If she is truly sorry. If you do forgive her you have to make sure you can trust her again. So just keep that in mind too.
Good luck and take care!!
Okay, I had to edit this because it seems like most of the advice you are receiving on here is, "get rid of them both".
Please don't live your life holding on to anger and pain. Forgiveness isn't always for the other person. It is for yourself as well. Until you forgive and completely move on from this you will use this in every relationship you have in the future. Don't let it do that to you. And, you know what? Your friend Amanda did you a favor. You don't need a guy who would do that to you.
I don't know what kind of friend Amanda was to you, only you know that. So you are the one that needs to decide if she gets another chance.
2007-11-28 17:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by TeKi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. I say that you should talk to them and ask the questions you want to ask. Doesn't matter what they have to say because what possible excuse can they have for betraying you other than "we were drunk and one thing led to another". There is absolutely no answer they can possibly give you that would make you feel better. I say, talk to them just for your own closer so that later you don't regret not confronting them and getting your questions answered. Then cut them loose, you don't need people like that in your life. And you other friends, if they are really your friends, they won't pressure you to forgive them because they are friends with Amanda as well. In fact, they should hate her too because if she did that to her best friend, what chance do they have they she won't betray them as well? Bottomline, talk to them, get your closer, and move on.
2007-11-28 17:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take all the time that you need to sort out things and calm urself to a point where you can tell them both how u feel. continue to avoid them and then let them kno u cant be friends or have a relationship with them rite now. there are definitely better people out there so dont feel too bad.sowry hope this helps.
2007-11-28 17:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by memybaby11804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing just fine; what I would do is send them off an email explaining how you feel; block them from your email and IM and take them out of your cell phone. The best way is to cut off any communications with those so-called friends.
2007-11-28 17:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this has happened to you. You are on the right track. Continue to avoid both of them and move on with your life. They both had the opportunity to be great friends of yours and they both ruined it. Move on and show that you are better than that. Pretend as if you never met them. Give it some time you will feel better.
2007-11-28 17:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by andie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try, as hard as it may be, to move on with your life. unfortunately you had to learn the hard way that the people you cared for were not really the people you thought they were. there is no excuse for what they did and, whatever they say, there is no reason for you to be friends with such people.dont be upset with them, just forgive them (call it stupidity on their part) and move on with your life...BUT NEVER FORGET!
ps: i know it will be hard for you to trust someone else after that but not everybody is like, so dont make all future man in your life pay for this jerk's mistake
2007-11-28 17:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by mr b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally I'm a stubborn one, I wouldn't do nothing, just be shady as hell, don't answer calls or anything and definitely don't go back to him, but if its killing you so bad that you have to answer just be as shady as you can and play it like you don't even care. I don't know how old you are but if old enough go out and have a good time, meet new guys and forget about that fool!!
2007-11-28 17:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Spud Pendelton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all calm down. Then talk to her, and then your X-BF then...ask them what they did over the Thanksgiving party, see if they would lie to you, tell them you found out if they lied and dump them. (as a friend and then ur BF)
Talk to them or avoid it AND them.
2007-11-28 17:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
you need to talk with your friend and your boyfriend
otherwise dump them both
2007-11-28 17:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋