Why am I so ugly?

Question

I know I'm not that ugly. But let's face it: I'm screwed. I studied so hard and worked so hard to improve the way I dress. I read the bloody Economist and am very well versed in the arts, literature, film, etc. I speak four languages. But I'm useless and horridly plain. I'm stuck depending on the kindness of others to love me. Every time I look at my face in my mirror, I feel like I dying and I just want to break the mirror and forget I exist. I know biology have cursed me forever, and don't you say that one day "the right man," will find you. Sure, but I'm not allowed to be choosy at all. Why bother? Why I am alive if I'm so undesirable to men? I don't care if they're not classically attractive, only thin, and from a good family and well-educated--as I am.
I live by a river, and sometimes I just feel like pulling an Ophelia and well you know...

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No matter how much make-up I apply or hair styles, I try out. My face is that of a...well, its not good enough.

Excuse some grammatical errors. I'm crying right now.

Yes, I'm particular about education and manners. Nothing too much after that since I'm very sure things would never take-off! It's a family thing and aren't I allowed to have standards even if I'm less than plain?

I mean, I don't care about facial looks. Weight yes. Heavy, to me, equals not healthy. Honestly, it would be better for that poor guy. I would drag him to the gym constantly.

Answer 1

OMG, what are you talking about. If that's you in the picture, you look more than fine. In fact, you are pretty cute. You just need to improve your self esteem. Good luck :)

Answer 2

you are soo wrong! you are not ugly at all! (im a teenager by the way) it may not sound true but deep down theres beauty in everybody no matter how unattractive the person is. sometimes im attracted to guys that other people think are so ugly!!! and u stated that u were smart and studied a lot- well thats good! it will give u a great future. who knows, maybe one day ull get married to an attractive young man who loves u for who u are n have a good career n maybe even kids! cheer up.. no ones always happy about their looks... u just have to stop noticing the negative side, and begin noticing theirs a beautiful positive side with a great heart. i hope u cheer up and start loving who u are and how u were created. =]

Answer 3

Oh, get a grip. There's not a thing wrong with your looks. Nothing. You're either posting this just to get attention or you have very deep self esteem issues. No one is useless and even horribly plain people marry and live useful and productive lives. Quit comparing your own life to the Hollywood standard. Those actresses look like crap without makeup and a great makeup artist.

Answer 4

Are you being serious? Are those really your photos? I see somebody who is beautiful but from your description of yourself I had not expected that, I had expected to see the photos of a person with a slight disfigurement.

You are hot, sexy and you have a winning smile! Have you heard of body dysmorphia - a distorted conception about your body image?

You are NOT undesirable to men, not in the slightest! I hope that one day you will be able to see what I see and then maybe you won't be so harsh on yourself - you are a really cute girl!

Answer 5

Biology did not curse you, you cursed yourself. Evey women is beautiful, But the image you may have of beauty is so overrated you feel ugly. When you stop showing some confidence in yourself instead of feeling pity for yourself and start looking for worthy guys who actually care about the woman and not solely about her vagina, You know guys with actual brains . Please don't think about ''pulling an Ophelia'' over such a thing. You are as precious as you find your self.

Answer 6

I suggest you get involved in some outside strenuous activity, like running or hiking. Exercise that is really a struggle can be a real mood lifter.

Maybe you will also meet a new friend. I suggest you drop all the main requirements except maybe for some education. You seem very particular.

Answer 7

Before you do anything you have to break the mentality that a man's love can define your worth.

You have to figure out how to be happy with yourself before you can expect a man to find you desirable. If you are constantly telling someone that your not good enough...they will eventually begin to believe it...that goes for yourself too.

Confidence is what makes a girl sexy, looks are NOT! With that said...your not ugly.

Answer 8

You are certainly not ugly, and you are not plain either. You are quite pretty in reality. It sounds like you are suffering from severe depression, not because you are ugly, but you think you are ugly because you are depressed. You need to get some help for yourself, talk to a doctor about you feeling this way.

Answer 9

Puleeze!!! When you recognize that male admiration or appreciation of how you appear, you will understand how superficial that reinforcement is. Just be proud of your accomplishments, and recognize that there will be a nice guy who will appreciate you for you, not what someone else says you should be.

Answer 10

First of all, you are not ugly. You are actually really nice-looking, just like everybody else.

Secondly, it's not your looks that count, it's what's inside that matters.