This is more a question for straight men. I am gay, work in a kitchen with a definite male atmosphere. Everyone but me is straight. They all know that I'm gay. I've had no problems as far as anyone being homophobic. They're all friendly and I have socialized with them away from work only somewhat. I have no intentions of making a move on any of them as I want them to be my friend as much as I would be theirs. But sometimes, when I am out drinking with one of them or maybe at their house, some moments just seem awkward. As I said, I have no sexual intent. I could really use some feedback from straight guys who have gay friends. Obviously where no sex is involoved. I just want to better understand. Thanks for your time.
2007-11-28 08:43:44 · 6 answers · asked by Robert O 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes i would be friends and hang round with a guy that is gay ,As friends don't have to become lovers unless they want to.
I have worked and been to parties with straight and gay people and i have no problems .It is their choice and i respect their choice,And no i am not gay .
2007-11-28 08:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I know what you are talking about, because I feel this sometimes from my straight male friends, back in college mostly when we were all young and horny. Not to put too fine a point on it, but it sometimes seemed to me they thought maybe I would 'service' them for my own pleasure and they could have a release without the pain of chatting up a girl. I know this sounds cynical, but that was the vibe I would get and I am pretty good at knowing what others are thinking.
2007-11-28 16:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this situation, if there is an issue it's not your fault, but it would be on their end.
Any guy who is comfortable with his sexuality wouldn't have a problem. I am openly gay and I have several straight guy friends. All of them are very supportive and they ask about my partner--they're comfortable enough with themselves.
2007-11-28 16:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by gopher646 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nearly all of our friends are straight men -- you just live and they live and you care about one another. The hobby we are in (RPGs/Sci Fi/Fantasy) is straight male dominated -- but I've never had a problem. I'm sorry that your experience is different.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
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2007-11-28 17:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, do nothing, there isn't an issue... Or you could just say hey, "what's up with that time at the bar... you know that awkward moment?" talking can't hurt...
Good luck...
2007-11-28 16:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lupe S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i answered this yesterday, why don't my answers show up?
2007-11-28 16:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by ribuckeye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋