My daughter is 2. she lives with me. Her father was living with us but then he quit his job and i was stuck supporting him, i made him move because he got physical when we argued. after that he would visit her on his days off twice a week for about 8 mths. when the lease was over we decided to move in together, we lasted about 2 weeks, my daughter and i moved out and i filed for custody in Aug., he never showed up for mediation or the court day, i got sole physical and legal custody, The judge made me do a order to show cause, we have another court day in Jan for the move away order, but i cant really afford a lawyer, He makes a lot of money and is living in a luxurious place, while i'm living in a studio. He said he got a lawyer & has denied my request. He is paying a lot of money to the lawyer. He has only seen her once, In Nov, and that was because i took her to see him. After that day he has not seen her. He doesn't help with child support in anyway.
I dont know what to expect.
2007-11-28 08:42:40 · 8 answers · asked by Ammie 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
After i made him leave he got a job quick so now he makes a lot of money. I live in California and want to move to GA where im from. My job transfers over there and i already have a house to live in, the lifestyle is more affordable and i feel that there was less violence and dirt over there than there is here. he father doesnt see her anyways, but if he wants to i would give him visitation rights from over there.
2007-11-28 08:54:13 · update #1
ok "hoo", i know he is her father, i have tried many times to get him to see her, he makes up excuses and doesnt see her, i have called him so that they can talk over the phone and he says he's busy. im not doing it out of spite, i want him to be in her life, but he refuses to step up and be a father.
2007-11-28 09:43:08 · update #2
1. You didn't say how far away or for what reason you want to "move." 2. You were stuck supporting him but now he makes a lot of $$ & lives in luxury?
Nobody here can give you advice based on such sketchy & contradictory information.
2007-11-28 08:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes a big difference what country, state, and county has jurisdiction over your case. It is certainly important for you to obtain legal representation. If you have sole custody, then you should have no trouble moving, but again legal counsel is important. Unless you make a lot more than he does, you should be receiving child support. That alone will offset the cost of the attorney in a relatively short period of time. If you can't come up with the money, seek assistance from family. You could also talk to your church. Churches tend to make many charitable contributions, especially when it comes to taking care of their own.
2007-11-28 08:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Fireball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My understanding is that CA law makes it difficult for a parent to move away with the kids beyond a reasonable visiting distance without a really good reason.
If he has an attorney and you don't, the odds are heavily against you "having a good reason" no matter what the facts are.
2007-11-28 09:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Barry C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The money spent on a Good lawyer is well worht it in the end! If you are in California (don't know hwere you are) the court system is in your favor and you can recoup court cost and will get spousal and Child support! Keep at it, spend the money for the attorney!
2007-11-28 08:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a good family law attorney. Look for someone who is board certified. These attorneys are used to situations like yours and fight well for you and your daughter. Don't worry about attorney fees. They are good at getting their fees from rich dads.
** Note: This is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **
2007-11-28 08:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by scottclear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's as$ out as long as he hasn't been paying child support. Also not showing up for the mediation date hurts him. So he could show up to court with Matlock and it wouldn't matter.
2007-11-28 08:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a lawyer. Look for legal aide in the phone book or contact your local bar association.
2007-11-28 08:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think back about 3 years ago.
Remember that guy you met and fell in love with.
And do you remember when you and he made a baby together?
Remember all that?
OK...3 years later.
It's today and you're tired of him and you want to do something else.
Guess what. Your daughter is HIS daughter too.
Did you forget about that?
Hey...Maybe you need to think about stuff before you do it.
Anyway, my guess is it doesn't matter one way or the other because you want what you want and that's all that matters.
Am I right?
2007-11-28 09:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by hoovarted 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋