A couple of years ago I was seriously depressed and anti social. People who are experiencing depression isolate themselves from other people; the ones who are close to them and ones who try to get close to them. I didn't know it then but this guy really liked me and was too shy to speak to me so he had his friends try. one of his friends tried a couple of times, he walked up to me and I kept walking. another one tried to help me in class like 2 or 3 times and I didn't say thanks. another was walking up to me in the hallway and I turned around and walked the other way.
I know these things were rude and bitchy. I used to feel really guilty about them, I still kind of do. They cannot stand me. it shows.
they don't say mean things but I can tell by their body langauge and how they speed up when they see me.
Another one of all of their friends might go out with me. I don't want there to be tension. what can I do to fix things?
Guys, how would you feel if you were those guys?
2007-11-28 08:41:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
kojak...stop bein so dramatic.
"spit in someone's face or slapped them" is a huge difference between being rude.
spitting in someone's face is something that will make them never look at you the same.
you're overreacting.
2007-11-28 09:19:53 · update #1
oh yeah kojak, it wasn't abuse. stop being a drama queen.
2007-11-28 09:20:24 · update #2
If one of my friend's girlfriends was like that, I'd probably think she was a ***** but still be nice to her in an attempt to get her to trust the group of friends
what you did was really bitchy, but I understand, I'm kinda the same way but I always at least say Hi, or somehow acknowledge the persons existence, I NEVER ignore, look down, or turn around when someone I don't want to see is near me.
I understand anti-social behavior but ignoring people is just to much, a simple Hi doesn't kill anyone, I don't care how much a hate a co-worker, if I'm stuck in an elevator or hallway with them at least I say hello or good morning and if they ask about my day I give a decent response, they may think i'm anti-social but at least I'm not such an ******** to just ignore or run away from people.
If you ever are in close quarters with these guys I suggest you simply apologize, just say you're like that sometimes and you're really sorry.
I understand all you said about depression and being anti-social , but DO NOT get into the habit of running away from people in hallways, elevators, etc... Your life will really turn to sh!t if you do, depression just isn't an excuse for that type of treatment, you know damn well you'd get even MORE depressed if the world started treating you like that.
2007-11-28 09:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Undead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel like your personality stinks and wouldn't be interested. The only way you could make it right would be if you explained everything to them as you have explained to us. If the guy who liked you was too shy to talk to you he should be able to relate.
Btw are you still like this? Cuz if you are you should try and sort it out. Good luck have fun take care.
2007-11-28 08:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me the answer is fairly simple.....What would you do if you spit in someones face......or slapped them for no reason......
Me...... I would apologize......admit I was a total ***.....not try to mitigate or excuse my behavior with some lame excuse about being depressed and just ask for forgiveness.
You insulted and injured these people.......tried to excuse yourself with a lame excuse.....You might get "depressed" again......why should they take a chance you will abuse them again ...no wonder they do not like you
Be genuinely contrite and humble.....ask them to give you another chance
RESPONSE..... When you snub someone.....that is abuse.....their feeling were hurt .....that was abuse......You ask for my opinion / adice.....then call me names when I give it..... You have no empathy or guilt.....You are not a nice person.....maybe they are right about you......good luck
2007-11-28 08:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kojak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your position. We don't play these mind games. We're not psychic. Just tell them whats been going on. If that doesn't work, buy them a beer. I used to not be able to stand my friend's girlfriend, but we started hanging out and had a few drinks together and worked it out.
P.S. if your not old enough, don't drink.
2007-11-28 08:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brian s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a cold uncareing person and you were the way you explained then it is up to you now to fix.
Everyone has problems, it seems you didn't handle things the way they should have been.
So now it is up to you to approach those that you wronged and explain why and try to make amends.
2007-11-28 08:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Don M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them the truth that you were at a bad point in your life. you can still apologise and hope for the best. some people do not carry grudges. i know you asked for males but sometimes you need to get more than one viewpoint! good luck.
2007-11-28 08:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of an apology? that would be a start just tell the poor soul that you wern"t in your best of mind and now you are think better now.you don't have to go out with him but go out of the way to talk to him and his friends.DON'T GO OUT WITH ANY OF HIS FRIENDS FOR A LONG WHILEGOOD LUCK
2007-11-28 08:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a girlfrind that u can't stand anymore,just break up with her she will understand
2007-11-28 08:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by sammy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋