Why do men approach easy women and not smart, intelligent women?

Question

I have seen that men always are confident in front of 'easy' women.

Answer 1

Your question is both a leading question and loaded. Men DO approach smart, intelligent women. It doesn't always lead to dates and marriage, but they do it.
By asking this question you assume ALL men which would mean that a good proportion of womankind must simpletons if all the men are engaged in hooking up with them. This leaves a small core of smart, intelligent women.
Minorities always get the worst deal.

Answer 2

Women who fancy themselves as "smart, intelligent and strong" are actually just bitches and no man wants to deal with a *****. Remember that this is also a uniquely Anglo phenomenon (UK, USA, Aus, etc) which has only arisen post-feminism. If you're speaking about yourself specifically, then there may be other reasons why men do not approach you if you are not constantly acting like a ***** to them and making life unnecessarily difficult...Also, men are genetically programmed to spread their seed, so an easy woman subconsciously means an increased possibility to mate and procreate. As much as Westerners like to think of humans as something more than animals, we are just that & it shines through all the time!

Answer 3

Methinks you're tarring the entire male chunk of the human race with the same big brush... but then I can't argue that you've just described a lot of men.
I've never been interested in 'easy' women, but then I've always wanted relationships not a quick one down the alley behind a pub.
I approached my fiance. That's a woman with two degrees, a diploma in IT, self taught in writing programmes in HTML and is currently studying to be a managerial accountant whilst working full time as a financial analyst. She's gorgeous as well.

I've always wanted intelligent women. Someone who I can talk to and be kept interested in, and not just someone who looks good in the pub.

Answer 4

I try to spend my time with intelligent women, and enjoy their company but the problem is that if you spend time in intellectual pursuits you don't get around to much else.

In a long term relationship (not based on carnal pleasure) intellectual equality is needed, so the mate must be chosen from a smaller section of the available mating group for things to work out, so a lot of getting to know one another on the mental level takes place, but the physical in neglected. This occurs mainly because he doesn't want her to think he's just after a quick S£$% and she doesn't want him to think he's easy.
Then both parties think the other is not interested in them and unless stupidity is allowed to step in a take control of the intellectual functions, thus allowing the privative out to romp in the hay. It will never get past the first post.
Hence the quick fix option.

Answer 5

like it or not, in the animal kingdom, there is a silent communication.
confidence comes with the sense that the opposition to a goal is minimal.
The question is the goal and the desired outcome.
People are slaves to their desires and put forth the front that enables them. (not just men)
Virtue is the highest ranking honor amongst the saints and commonly the tide that changes society.
in short, "there are a lot of bad wolves out there, but some grow up"
edit
Sorry had to add ...
Why don't intelligent women approach intelligent men?

Answer 6

because when men are looking for "some ***" i.e. they just want sex...they are gonna get it from the easy women so they don't have to work hard...but if they want a good relationship they will sometimes work hard to find a smart intelligent woman. LOL...well at least all the guys worth giving a second glance will.

Answer 7

Hello:

Intelligent women seem (at least to men) to expect more, which is to say that less will be let go, more will be noticed and more of our bullshit will be called.

On the same hand I like intelligent women, send me an im sometime.

I hope this helps

Rev Phil

Answer 8

Let me get into the sociological aspects of this. There is a theory that suggests that we are attracted to people based on our needs for survival. What I mean by this is that, if someone wants to make sure their genes are past on, they have to have a suitable mate toward that end.

Woman, for example would need someone who could provide for the family. So, in looking for a mate, she would choose someone who was virile and had wealth (that is determined in different ways depending on the age).

Men chose women who could bare and care for their children. A sign of a good mother (back in the day) was someone who had wide hips and full breasts. Until recently, for example, thin women were considered to be unattractive. This was partly because it was considered a sign of poverty and weakness.

Obviously, we have made so many "advances" that these things do not necessarily hold true today. But there is the idea that some of that is part of our hard wiring. So, even though we don't need it, per se, our behaviors are still influenced by it.

So, to answer your question... from this viewpoint...

Men are attracted to woman to whom they can easily spread their seed. The woman need not be smart for that. They do not do this on a conscious level, however. :)

Edit:
I am not saying that this is what I hold to be true or not true. I am just presenting one documented idea. :)

Answer 9

I'm now 40 and have been married for 14 years, so this is seriously outdated information, but all i can remember is that there were intelligent women i wanted who didn't want me and made odd decisions about who they wanted to be with and that was it. I don't remember any "easy" women, although there were a couple who had such low self-esteem that they went out with me, but that was their idea, not mine.

Answer 10

I think the nice shy men tend not to just go up to random girls and bother them as the cocky big headed ones go straight for the easy girls after all they are easy and they just want some fun and not a real relationship.