the hell am I going to manage??????????????????????
2007-11-28 08:04:35 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I mean in the mornings getting everyone ready for school, not to mention cooking, cleaning etc!
By the way we were happy about 1 baby, but two was like being clubbed over the head!
2007-11-28 08:11:21 · update #1
Country, lmfao that was actually on my positive list! PMSL
2007-11-28 09:12:11 · update #2
Aww Whipass it must feel like some sort of unreal nightmare right now, but you know what you'll manage.
You appear like a strong, capable woman I bet you and your family will do just fine.
Good luck mate
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2007-11-28 08:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
You will manage - I'm sure you thought that you would never manage when you had your first child and your step daughter, then probably when your 5 year old was born you thought the same, but you did.
Just be prepared to accept help and also accept that you are not superwoman and don't worry if you haven't cleaned or ironed or hoovered for a couple of days, the mess will still be there the next day and your kids will NEVER grow up and think "Thanks mum, we had a really tidy house when we were kids!" I think you should also give your kids simple chores to do now and again too, even if it's just keeping their rooms tidy for a bit of pocket money, every little bit helps.
I also think that being prepared helps - do lunchboxes and sort any letters for school out the night before, get uniforms (even underwear) ready and have the babies' stuff prepared too. Do internet shopping and prepare what you will eat for dinner the night before. Organising your life makes things a whole lot easier - I used to be the most disorganised person in the world!!
Just relax and enjoy it,being a mum is the best job in the world! Good Luck to you allxx
2007-11-28 08:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Whipass you will cope! My daughter has twin boys of just 2 years old (birthday last week) and a daughter of 3 and a half so she was only 18 months when the twins were born. She is now 12 weeks pregnant with the next one! She lives in Athens with her Greek husband and has no friends or family to help but she has managed and coped well. You will find with twins though that they are double trouble and get up to more mischief than one would because they combine their brain power! This is the one thing she has found different to having one child!
2007-11-28 20:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whipass honest trust me if you can organise what you have you will organise an extra two.
I had three girls and when I had my last two it was like having twins as first daughter was disabled and once you get a pattern you can do it the key is organisation.
I used to get everything ready for school night before it is like being in the army but eventually it all falls into place.
The others can help you with the babies when they come as well.
You will be ok it is just the thought of it all I know you can cope.
2007-11-28 09:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 24 years old i had 5 children under 6 years of age eldest was 5 years 3 months 2nd one was 4 years old
3rd one was 3 years old then i had twin boys.
It was hard but i really enjoyed them years and i find Christmas to quite know. I still have the twins at home but it is not the same there is no buzz early Christmas morning.
So over time you will manage and you will wounder how.
2007-11-28 08:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by brenda l 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing!
Start looking at everyone's routine now, while you still have time. Chances are you've been babying your 5 y.o. - after all, that kid *has* been your baby until now! If you can start instilling more discipline in your kids about putting their own clothes out, etc., it will save some of your sanity. I wouldn't even make it about "when the babies come," just make it about regular old life. They're old enough to help out, at least in terms of not making your life any more difficult.
My neighbor went through a very similar situ - she was never super organized until she realized her hands were going to be (literally) full. She's still not one of those Nancy Neatnik types, but she swears by her routines.
Congrats!
2007-11-28 08:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know, we women have been doing this since time began. You'll manage. There's a daddy around to help, isn't there. The 12 year old may be handy, and if you're not doing so well with her now, maybe letting her know how much you appreciate her help will improve your relationship.
You do have to plan ahead, be really organized with groceries and laundry and such. Hope you have some nice sisters or friends to give you a hand.
2007-11-28 08:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Debdeb 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
you are soooo lucky ! my neighbour had 2xboys and then twin boys -she often asked herself 'why me?'.Her husband is quite a 'hands on' chap and one night managed to feed one baby twice-the other twin had fallen back to sleep ! Her other 2 have been a great help getting bottles,patting backs etc.
Once,when they became toddlers and she had to take them shopping she put reins on them - big mistake ! The one ran round and round her to the left and the other to the right ! She was literally tied-up,standing up with 6 carrier bags and the twins sitting on the pavement giggling whilst she was trying to coax them to run round the other way so she could free herself !
They are soooo lovable (and tiring at the same time) By the time they were in Nursery they were pretending to be each other for laughs !!
Look on the bright side -I'm available for baby-sitting if you need an evening off
2007-11-28 10:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When they're born, make any task you need help with into a game, so the others will help out willingly rather than seeing it as a chore. Explain that you love everyone just as much but babies need a lot of help when they're little so may not pay them as much attention, but you'll be around for any amount of hugs when they need it. Also remember twins aren't that bad (I'm one!) so for the first few years (I'm told), shopping etc isn't bad as long as the shop has double the stock!
2007-11-28 09:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax, you're fine and blessed! :) The other three are old enough to be more independent. My sister has a 2 1/2 yr old girl, a 1 yr old boy and a 1-month old girl...is that HARD or what? they are so close together that she has to bathe them, dress them, feed them, EVERYTHING THEM!....you don't have to dress your kids and the older ones can always help you with the cleaning and other chores around the house. Depending on their age assign them with activities so it's not so hard on you and if they ever do somethign wrong, don't get mad at them, they will try to do their best :).
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-11-28 08:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Diana 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i know you can do it
some of the children you have to help out a little more
its nothing wrong adding a little more responsibility for them
they can handle things probably better than you think
they three maybe have to help eachother out ect...
you can do it
i have
an 8 year old, 1 year ,2 yr old and 3 almost 4 yr old
it is challenging ALOT of times but it can be done
best wishes
happy holidays
2007-11-28 08:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by Neeca L 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋