I having been reading some questions on the teen page and there are several 14 years old who are pregnant. I am so angry i could actually cry, this could be because i am due my period so i am yet again not pregnant this month. Why can they get pregnant after one mistake of not using contraception and i have been trying 2 years and still haven't? Plus another thing is that most of these will get a house and have benefits and never work in their life but me and my partner who work full time struggle to get a house. So i am thinking maybe i should do the same, be like them?!!!
I am NOT saying all teenage mums are like this but you have to admit most of them are.
2007-11-28 07:44:45 · 32 answers · asked by hope 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
this is a really good subjetc you know, you saying about girls pregnant getting homes ect well when i was 16 still too young for a baby i think i had to go to the council to put my name down for a flat and the things that the housing officer said to me were unreal, cut a long story short she literally turned around and said if i were to get pregnant i would have a much better chance of receiving a home! how bad is that! of course i never did and thanks to hard work working every god send hour 8years down the line my partner and i have a beautiful home to be proud of as at the end of the day you appreciate things more if you have to work for them. my partner and i still trying for a baby been about 6 years and still nothing doctors cant find anything wrong yet there so slow to start sorting us out as many women have been given drugs to help them by now we've had nothing! seeing these girls 14< 15 even 16 getting pregnant and like you said have all this stuff by the way were paying for! makes me mad at least in 20 years time hopefully with you having lots of offspring of your own you can look back and be sooooo proud of what youve acheived coz it didnt just fall into your lap you worked damn hard for it now thats something woth smilling about! lots of baby dust to you good luck hun! xx
2007-11-28 23:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by new mommy 09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I undertand where you sre coming from, but being that young I bet they are going through hell at the moment, having to explain to their parents etc, and as you say they will get benefits but it wont be much and will have to stuggle, living on benefits is worse that working and having money, but then there is another way to look at it, its worse working as you have to work long hours for the mony as well as have to pay for everything, either way its not good.
They wont nesscary get a house, they will have to stay with parents etc and be on a waiting list probably. I dont really know, but all I know is you only get 15 pound for your child and youmight get rent payed for you, but you still got to pay the bills and food and also if the 14 year only is claiming jobseekers or something I dont know what a 14 year old will get I suppose nothing only what child benefit their parent gets for her and she will have to live of this and be alone in her house with a baby to cloth and feed,
Whereas you will have the baby sorted and right with money when he eventually comes that is, but try not to let it get you down as it wont help if your ttc.
We were just saying the other day when were ttc now if could take months but if we werent trying and went without contracepton then we would probably get caugh, On girl I know turned round and said pretend you not trying then, lol
I dont know why for some people it happens first time.
I read somewhere that its because women are more horney around the time of ovulation which is when they make amistake and not use contaception or something happends and it goes wrong and then end up pregnant.
The best thing for you to do is not come on here and read storys like that as it seems to really stress you out, dont think about anyone else who is having a baby just concentrate on you and your partner making babies,
2007-11-28 07:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming pg at such a young age is kinda silly in my opinion, they are still children at this age and not physically able to cope with the strain let alone mentally able(in the most case anyway, im sure there may be exceptions)
It will seem harder for you to see all these girls falling pg so easily when you long to be pg youself, the chances are with a lot of these girls that it is not their first "mistake" with contraception and they've done it before just never with bad results for them.
of course the reality for them is that, yes they will recieve benefits, but are unlikely to be offered more than sheltered accomodation or mothers units for long time, they will have a life that will be solely focussed on their child because they will be unlikely to complete any further education, it isn't an easy option for them to take and is very much a struggle.
Keep trying and i'm sure you'll get that baby you so desire. Good luck.
2007-11-29 00:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make me angry b/c that's their problem, but I don't think u should do the same & be like them. Keep doing what ur doing. That would make u less of a person to stop working & get free housing & stuff just to get on 14 y/o's level. People usually get pregnant when they're not trying or not expecting to (I did), but I'm not 14. I'm 21 & expecting my first & will be working & finishing my last year of college after she's born. I know it's not fair. Just keep trying & don't give up. U'll u get that beautiful little baby in due time. Good luck! =)
2007-11-28 07:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and not married, but I am supporting myself. My little girl (due in March) was most certainly a suprise, a miracle but at the time of finding out I didn't see it quite like that. I feel very guilty for that, there are so many women who long to see the pregnant symbol on a test and I was one who was upset when I saw it. I am engaged to be married and I don't rely on the government, and I do believe the government needs more strict guidelines, but none the less I am an unwed teen too. I am sorry that you haven't conceived yet, but just think, when you do, you will appreciate your little miracle from the very beginning. God bless to you and your husband, I will keep you in your prayers, it will happen sooner or later!
2007-11-28 08:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by For my scars shall mold me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make me angry, but it is gross. I don't have much room to talk because I'm 17 and I'm 9 weeks. Honestly, and most young people don't do this, but one of the first things I thought of was that this was an accident and all the people that can't have kids or who have trouble getting pregnant. It did bring tears to my eyes because even tho I didn't try to get pregnant I do have HPV high risk for cervical cancer, so I take this as a blessing. One thing that does make me angry is abortions... I mean you could at least give another family a chance to love a child. As far as 14 years olds getting pregnant is just gross and immature. I work full time so I understand my responsibilities, but a child who just started high school... if that!! I feel you on this one. And also I wish you the best because since I've been pregnant I've been a lot more emotional and understanding to people's pain. God bless you!
2007-11-28 07:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've always thought it was one of the great injustices of the world that there are so many people who want to get pregnant who can't, and so many people who don't want to get pregnant who do.
I think you are over simplifying the 'get pregnant get a house' scenario a bit, however. Even if these girls do get somewhere to live, it will most likely be on an rubbish estate full of crime and their kids have little chance of breaking out of that lifestyle. I assume that you wouldn't actually want that for your family.
Good luck with conceiving. I hope it works out for you soon.
2007-11-28 08:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may look like they have it easy but you shouldn't be angry at them because they are going to have to live a harder life and grow up faster than most of us. Yes it was their own choice to have sex but they didn't really understand the consequences. Every baby is a gift from God and is put on this earth for a purpose. Maybe one of those babies from a teenage mom is meant to be placed in the arms of a 30 year old woman unable to have children. God uses different people to carry out his work. I know it is hard. It is hard for me to see the pregnant women that are in my life right now. They are old enough and married but they all tried less than 3 months and I have been ttc for 16 months now. God knows what he is doing and without that faith I wouldn't have made it this far. Try not to have the anger or hurt. It will not help you in ttc. Best wishes to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-28 07:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is frustrating to watch anyone (not necessarily a teen) get pregnant who does not really want their child. It can also be frustrating to watch someone have things come easily when it comes to working and all that. But, in some sad way, that is kind of how life goes.
As hard as it is, I have learned that being bitter only makes me more miserable. The only way I am able to survive moments like this is through honestly appreciating what I have - however much or little it is. And remember, you are not alone in feeling this way, but you can't let yourself get lost and stuck in the negativity.
2007-11-28 07:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's completely frustrating!! Hang in there and don't read the teen page. It's just so crazy with what is going on....hang in there and I hope the best for you!
oh yeah these people will get benefots and social security and free housing and they will comlpain about it all the time. I have seen too much of this in my lifetime. Its' soo annoying beyond words while we the middle class have to pay out the wazoo for insurance and therefore can't afford a house since we are paying so much to have insurance. Totally unjust world...dwelling on it can make you go crazy literally!!
2007-11-28 07:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by k 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋