How can i help my friend understand her lesbian feelings?

Question

Im a lesbian, but i dont really know how i can help her.

she bi, and she thinks she might be lesbian, and she wants me to ask her questions to see if shes a lesbian. i have no clue wat to ask, so wat kinda things should i ask?

Answer 1

Just tell her how you realised you were a lesbian and if she has the same feelings you do towards the same sex.

Answer 2

step right up, fill out this form, and find out if you're gay!
if only it were that easy.

life - and sexuality - is fluid. where we are now is not necessarily where we have been or where we will be in five years. we grow and change. life throws us information and we process it. some lead us up one path - some another.

the advice i would give her is to not think of putting herself into a box, so to speak, at any point. instead go with the flow. especially if one has self identified as bi at anytime. being bi is not about sleeping with men and women at the same time - but the ability to be attracted to the soul of a person regardless of the outer gender presented.
i identify as bi even though i have just gotten married to a wonderful man and i have no intention of becoming involved with anyone else other than my spouse.
that does not mean that the years i spent living with women are not as important to me than they were before i got married, but what it does mean is that i have found someone regardless of gender that i am very deeply in love with and committed to.

unfortunately, the gay and lesbian communities are not as understanding of bisexuality and there is some discrimination. they seem to want a person to chose one or the other - i even know some lesbians who will not befriend a bi woman because they feel she has been 'contaminated' by male energy! how crazy is that!

The most important thing is to be yourself and not let anyone dictate who you should or should not love.

oh - and google the BECAUSE 08 Conference!

Answer 3

Well, don't ask her any leading questions...because if she wants to be lesbian, she'll find a wayto match her answers accordingly.

Ask her some open-ended questions that make her think, such as: "Tell me about the first time you had a crush on a girl"--that in itself will reveal her body language and facial expressions as she relives her crush.

You cam also ask, "What about the female body do you admire most & why?"

Or, "What do you feel inside when a cute girl smiles at you?"

Also, "Imagine you're in a lesbian partnership; you live together. Describe your day-to -day life, from the mundane to the romantic."

Hope these prove to be good starters...good luck!

Answer 4

Ok I'm not a lez.

Me and my mates wrote this for fun.

1. Take her to a football game, if she likes the players she aint lez.

2. Ask her on a date, if sshe says yes, shes a lesbo.

3. Tell her your not lez no more, and ask her to go on a double date with a guy you know, if she falls for it she aint a lesssssbo.

4.Ask her if she would like to kiss you. if she does then.....

Answer 5

Tell her to picture herself falling in love and spending the rest of her life with one person. Tell her to picture laying in bed with that person, picture going to dinner with that person, imagine having holidays with that person. Tell her to close her eyes and think of these things, and a couple more you can think of. Then tell her to open her eyes and ask her if that person was a girl or a boy. That should work.

Answer 6

Hmmm...my best friend helped me to figure out I'm 100% gay....well, tell her to close her eyes (or keep them open, if she prefers) and imagine her kissing a girl, and then kissing a boy....if when she sees the imagine of kissing a girl she feels something in her stomach and she feels good and comfortable with it then she's definitely lesbian....

If when she imagines herself kissing a boy she realizes she would feel more comfortable with kissing a girl, and she feels more pleasure while she thinks of kissing a girl, then yeah she's lesbian.

Then, tell her to put herself to the test. Tell her to think carefully and ask herself ''who do I find more physically attractive?''.

That's what she can do to help herself to figure out what she is.
All she needs is time...someday she'll find out by herself, it'll almost come out naturally.

There aren't certain ways to find it out. It has to come out sooner or later.


Then, tell her (like my friend did, and it worked a lot!!!) that if she finds out she's lesbian it isn't something bad...it's just nature, the way she is! If she's really gay, she hasn't to be ashamed of it, but proud.
Well, not so proud to show herself too much and tell everyone ''Yeah yeah I'm gay!'' or stuff like that.....she has to accept it, straight people should accept gays and gays should accept themselves and straight people....but first of all, gays have to be accept themselves, before being accepted by others.

Also tell her that if she finds out she's gay she shouldn't tell everyone, specially family members, but just trusted people, people who can definitely be ok with this.

Good luck for your friend, I hope she'll find it out soon.

Answer 7

ASK???? The question is what sort of things should you DO??!! Try stripping for her. Try getting naked with her. If she isn't gay she'll be like ewww. If she's lesbian she'll try to get some of what you have to offer. Heck, you might just enjoy it too!! I'd be glad to help choreograph this for you if you want.

Answer 8

1) does she always find girls attractive?
2)does she find any man attractive?
3)same for the other 2 but sexually?
4) if the perfect man or woman came up to her which would she prefer?
5)what does she look for when around town-guy or girl?

Answer 9

If she's bi, she's not lesbian. Sounds like you want her to be, but that's what YOU want, and not necessarily what SHE wants.

Talk to her - that sometimes works. Then you can both find out. Good luck.

Answer 10

If she finds herself jealous of another girl playing with another girl than possibly yes.Also,if she sees a guy she likes but also likes a girl thats in the same place than she could definetly be bisexual.