okay he has custudy of only one kid the baby momma is married already......0 baby momma drama!!! but m still worried!!! any one been thru this???????
2007-11-28 06:20:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it will be hard at first to make the family work, but it can be done. the ex will not make it easy...that's their job...sad, but true. you need not be a parent to the kids, but a friend first and foremost.....first, friend, second parent....i did that with my step kids and believe it or not, the step-son, sometimes came to hang out with me than his dad....just cause i showed him friendship. good luck...and stay tough!
2007-11-28 06:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I married a man with 2 children. The only drama with his ex arose when it was time for school and doctor appointments. I thought I was doing a favor by helping out- she took it as me over stepping my boundaries. We have worked out any issues we have had.
The next issue I had was with disciplining the children- they aren't bad children but I wanted it to be clear to both my husband and his ex that if the children would be staying under my roof I would have a say in discipline- for the simple fact that I wasn't going to let a 4 & 6 year old run wild. We came to an agreement on that as well- I can get on to them, put them in the corner, etc. I just don't spank them- and this was my choice- my husband and his ex said that I could have as much of a disciplinarian role as they do.
Don't worry- it will only be rough for the first few months. Once everyone gets used to the situation and arrangements things will cool off and it will become routine.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-11-28 06:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married a man with two boys. I really never had a problem with them, not anything major anyway. They were 6 and 7 when we got together and now they are 19 and 20. Sure, we went through some rough times with his ex, but overall if you are committed to the relationship and keep the communication lines open (especially with the kids) then you should be fine. Good luck!
2007-11-28 07:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going thru this now. Its hard. Im not going to lie. But if you get along with the kids thats a huge plus. I love my man's 2 daughters. HATE his baby mama!! lol Lotsa drama sometimes... but in the end its worth it....but dont put up with crap either!
2007-11-28 06:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by manders17723 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are accepting this man under this situation, remember that his children are going to be a part of his life forever. So don't try to make his past dissapear like it all went to the twilight zone. Learn how to deal with it, and with time everyone will get used to you and you will get used to them. Don't ever try to keep the dad away from his children- they will grow up one day and hate you for it.
2007-11-28 06:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you aware that the main cause of divorce in second and third marriages is step children? Seldom does it work. Good luck to you. You're going to need it.
2007-11-28 06:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it!
You'll never measure up no matter how great a mom you really could be.
No man is worth dealing with Baby-mama-drama. Not with so many single men out there.
2007-11-28 06:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
run as fast as you can! do not pass go! if there is already drama and you aren't even married, trust me on this one, it will only get worse!
2007-11-28 06:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RUN RUN RUN!!!!
My 3 step kids and I could never get along.. The ex trashed me from the get go and they wouldn't give me a chance.. The child support.. 1500 a month... RUN RUN RUN>...
2007-11-28 06:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by boohoo1964 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋