Hi everyone. I'm a rookie at this. But I figured it's worth a try to get some different perspectives. My girlfriend has been what I think unfaithfull to me for the last year to 2 years. She has been sending her naked pics out to people she has talked to over IM and email. In the emails with her photo attached she talked very sexual for the receivers, more than she even would to me in bed. I've also discovered that one of the persons she sent her photos to, had been calling her and having sex with her over the phone. I told her I'm done with her, but a little part in my mind says "it's only over the phone, or it's only over IM and email"... but I still think that she was cheating on me. I can't get the thoughts out of my head. We have been together for over 7 years. We never got married in part because she is currently married, but seperated. Oh, and to top things off, the pictures taken of ALL of her nakedness was taken by her seperated husband. What do you think?
2007-11-28 06:04:34 · 22 answers · asked by the next jimmy page 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it's a slippery slope. If she was honest and open about it, that helps make it tolerable. But if she was secretive and hiding it from you, that means she was knowingly disrespecting you. She was probably in denial that she even was doing anything wrong though, as this is one of those gray areas.
Though it's better than having sex in person, she still didn't act in a way that protected and enriched the relationship between the two of you. So it's probably wise of you to move on, at least until she learns that this sort of behavior isn't okay.
To better understand her perspective, she probably grew up thinking she was not beautiful, and all the attention from these men makes her feel like a goddess. I know that's why I used to seek out attention online. I loved the control and power I had over these people. I now realize that I was essentially whoring myself emotionally. "I'll show you my bits if you fulfill my feelings of a low self worth"
Try talking to her about her feelings of self worth. Ask her why you weren't enough to fulfill her needs. It could help her develop a sense of self understanding if you are a friend instead of bitter toward her.
2007-11-28 06:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely evidently such as you're pleasurable the burning want of your flesh now which you're separated. So in actuality that's what it rather is. in case you have no administration over that, then you easily will what feeds it. All i will assert is be careful what doorways you open. What may be a short-term delight NOW might desire to finally finally end up being an dependancy later! in case you quite intend to make your marriage artwork, then positioned your ability into having that comparable want, etc on your hubby. You hate to get addicted to the cyber intercourse after which you and your hubby artwork issues out and additionally then you definately can't enable pass of the cybersex and it finally ends up being yet another component to wreck the marriage.
2016-12-10 07:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is not taking your relationship seriously. She is putting herself on the internet so men will gawk and tell her she is beautiful. What she doesn't know is a normal heavy set woman get the same responses because men like to talk dirty to women. I do not think it is cheating however it is grounds for c-ya hope you have a nice life. I think she likes all of the attention she is getting from all these wierdo's. Makes her feel good about herself until one day she realizes that these men are wierd and perverts (not all).
2007-11-28 06:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is wanting out of the relationship she has with you and this is her way of going about it. It is cheating and it is not right. Maybe what you should do is leave her instead of waiting for her to leave you. One thing will eventually lead to another and she will be physical with someone sooner or later. Its in your best interest to get out now and let her do her own thing.
2007-11-28 06:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by unbroken29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop living in the 19th century, sounds like the reason our girl needs cyber is becouse you're too boring, sex is fun,fantasy is fun. enjoy sex, enjoy life .... stop being boring and let your girl have some fun or let her go and find someone who will.
That way you can find a boring person to be with and you can sit home and play chess,knit socks or whatever you'd rather do than LIVE
2007-12-01 07:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's cheating! Hello! Get away from her, she sounds like a wh*re! What did u expect? You got with her knowing she is still married? I guess what goes around comes around!
2007-11-28 06:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to be done with this person once and for all. she is showing you that she doesn't want to be with you just by still being married after all this time, the phone sex and the cybersex. you need to find someone who can be faithful to you and love only you and is willing to do what it takes to let you know that she cares for you and only you.
2007-11-28 06:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is cheating she is exhibiting herself to other men and she is talking in a sexual and emotional manner to them. Run for the hills she is a slut.
2007-11-28 06:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know, but one thing that jumps out at me is the phrase "More than she even would with me in bed." That tells me that you're not being enough of a bad boy for her tastes.
2007-11-28 06:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating starts within your heart! If she is having cyber sex with some other guy, then she is cheating. If you lust after someone else, your cheating!
2007-11-28 06:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋