get so many friends, well loved, sociable, popular and well liked...but then its not my personality and prefer to be alone most of the time, but when i see pictures of people so happy together i get envious...is this wrong? what is the best way to do??
2007-11-28 05:30:53 · 23 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are 24 hours in every day despite who you are or how popular. In that 24 hours, most people have very little social time (at least I do). You can spend that time with 1 friend or 10. Just relax about it.
2007-11-28 05:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong. Being surrounded by good friends and a happy family is something everyone wants, if even only occassionally. I have a large family and love them dearly, although it's nice to have a break and be alone. There is a healthy balance.
Even though you prefer to be alone most of the time, it sounds like you would rather not be alone ALL of the time and wish that you could have a group of people to spend time with.
Try cultivating your current aquaintences into deeper friendships. If you have family that lives close by, try to spend a little more time with them.
I just may be that you're lonely.
2007-11-28 05:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong. Many people feel this way. What you need to do is stop worrying what other people think of you. The reason people are sociable and have lots of friends is because they are outgoing. The way to do this is to shed your fear of being embarassed. I used to be like you, but then I realized it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me. All that matters is what I think of myself. I just started to go up to random people that I didn't know and started a conversation. Sometimes I would act like an idiot on purpose, because I got a kick out of it. Make it into a game, see how many people you can talk to and confuse. Just walk up to someone and say "banana" and then walk away. They'll be left shaking their head in confusion while you are giggling down the street. Once you stop caring what people think, you'll have lots of friends because you'll have confidence and people are drawn to that.
2007-11-28 05:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by FSM Raguru AM™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you are envious of them? If it is your personality to want to be alone then that's just who you are. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't have tons of friends. But do you think you are scared to try to make lots of friends and that's why you say it is your personality? Either way it's not wrong to be jealous of them but just realize that what makes those other people happy may not make you happy. Good luck!
2007-11-28 05:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Future Cat Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you admit that it is not in your personality and that you are a loner by nature, why this mysterious sensation of envy? Are you attempting to admit that you LONG to be more social and outgoing? If so, then find people with common interests and go from there. Teach yourself to play an instrument, read some good books, see some good movies, dedicate yourself to working out, and you will have developed some new social circles. It takes off from there, but open yourself up to the possiblility of new contacts.
2007-11-28 05:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by blklightz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to make some of your own happy pictures by making some friends. Theres plenty time to be alone, but friends are important. Or, you can lock yourself up in your house and complain that you have no friends. No one is making you be a loner but yourself. Once people know you wish to be alone, They'll stay away from you. No one likes a party-pooper. So get off your "Pity-Pot."
2007-11-28 05:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't beat them, just join them. Look for organizations in your area that need volunteers, one or two that you could share some of your skills or hobbies with. You will meet new people with the same passions as you do. Not only will you make new friends, you will be productive giving something back to society as well. Maybe that's all you need right now to get started.
2007-11-28 05:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i personally am more of a quite shy girl who sticks to her self and when i see people happy together like couples i get so envious sometimes so bad it drives me crazy! i don't think it is wrong, at all people like us are just looking for happiness that we don't have but want.
2007-11-28 05:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might social anxiety. I'm the same way, I want to hang out with people, but being in social situations sort of tends to freak me out.
What you should do is get that checked out. If you do have social anxiety, you can get medication for it, and it helps when you're around other people.
If you don't have anxiety and it is just personal preferance, perhaps you should space out your time and spend time with other people a couple of days of the week, and spend the rest of your time to yourself. That way, you can have your cake and eat it too.
2007-11-28 05:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Katrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My belief is that it's OK to be a loner as long as you're not a complete hermit. You're a recluse. There are many people like you who lead very fulfilling, successful lives. They are sociable, giving, and well liked. But when they want to be in their "own world", they go there. Just be yourself and love yourself.
2007-11-28 05:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by OMEGA1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋