Do men hate it when their dates pay for a date?

Question

It seems like most women welcome men paying for their date, but I for one can't stand it. What do you other men think?

Answer 1

My girlfriend often pays for herself and I love it. In fact, it turns me on. Other times, like when it's a pain or takes too long to split the bill, we switch off on who pays.

Answer 2

Not a man, but I prefer to at least pay my share. If I do the asking, I expect to do the paying. I dated someone and we took turns paying for dinner or movies. Sometimes we just split the bill. I certainly didn't mind. Being on a very limited budget (both grad students), I don't think HE minded either, as it meant that we got to do more things than we would have if he paid for everything.

Like I said in a previous post, I think who pays is trivial. If two people like each other, I would think they'd be happy spending time together no matter how it breaks down financially.

Answer 3

The problem isnt that we dont want you to pay for the date. The actual problem depends on how many dates you have been on with him. If it is a first date and the guy is a little hesitant as to whether you actually like him or not, then it will seem like you are trying to enforce the "just friends" angle by trying to pay.

But if you are actually dating or have been out a few times, most guys actually appreciate you paying some of the time.

Answer 4

If she asked me out first date she pays, I ask first date I pay then go from there but if you get into multiple dates and you feel something is worth the effort then you wont shouldn't mind paying. If you don't like paying because you have a low paying job and can't afford it you shouldn't be dating. If it's because your a tight wad woman pick up on that and will never pay for a date while with you.

Answer 5

Some men want to pay for there date. And don't want the woman to pay. If so let them pay .

Answer 6

Although hate is a strong word here, I don't like it one bit. Says to me that she doesn't trust me to take care of her.

Show that she will FORCE her equality on me, rather than letting the equality happen.

I'll tell you what I DO appreciate though. A mini-date within the date. One of my dates did this once. Oh MAN did that get my attention. Here's what happened. She let me pay for everything the whole night, but then towards the end of the date she said how much fun she had, and then she asked if she could take me to have coffee. Oh MAN was that a turn on! She thanked me, and she still got to assert her equality in a respectful way.

She was awesome. Think I'll give her a call. LOL

Answer 7

If a man is taking me out for a date, a man has to impress me that he is not a cheapskate,that he got a high standard,got a class in where he wants to dine,and he wants his woman beautiful, classy,sexy ,and intelligent. Money is no object ,for that kind of woman is priceless. PS> If I ask a man for a date , I will pay his dinner ,but if he invited me for a date he will pay for my dinner. But if he is just a friend,no scorings ,we'd go Dutch Treat.

Answer 8

Your ability to pay and treat for dates and entertainment is a direct clue into your ability to provide financial security for a family....why would a woman want to date, much less marry a man struggling to pay his bills? And yes, this is quite traditional, but ideally, when you get married and have kids, it's to the children's best interests for someone to stay at home with them and raise them, rather than shipping them off to strangers each day. AND with the outrageous costs of daycare, you have to have a pretty good job to actually make money after you have paid the daycare, the fuel costs to get to and from work, the lunch costs, the clothing (if you have to dress up for work etc.)

Answer 9

Hahaha, same question.

I offer because it's rude not to but usually think the guy will pay. If he doesn't I don't think anything less of him.

Answer 10

Only for the first few dates, she can leave the tip if she wants to. After that it is the ability to pay.