I need to draw up a prenup to protect my six other kids so that my income and assets are fairly distributed between them. Am I supposed to tell her this right away so she can use it to weigh her decision before saying yes or no? She knows about my other kids and the baby mammas.
2007-11-28 04:55:02 · 13 answers · asked by Sean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not write a will instead of a prenuptial agreement? Are you going into this marriage with the idea that it's something that you may want out of later?
A will would not be viewed as an affront to your fiancee, but it still enables you to provide for her and your children in the event of your death. After the will is read, if she's not happy with the distribution of your assets she will have little recourse to fight it, and you will have accomplished your goal without beginning your marriage by offending your fiancee.
2007-11-28 05:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. Then you can weigh your decision to marry her based upon her reaction. If she has a problem with a prenup it's a red flag that her motivation is driven more by your assets than love.
2007-11-28 05:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by jstgrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. But come on? Six kids, and she still wants to marry you? Telling her about the prenup should be the easy part.
2007-11-28 05:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?...in that prenup aren't you gonna have a special arrangement for her in case of divorce or death? Yes tell her right away so she can start making other plans.
2007-11-28 05:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say first off get a vasectomy now wow 6 kids your nuts.
Yes you should tell her there is a prenup involved in marrying you if she loves you she won't care.
2007-11-28 05:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know exactly where everything stands. If you don't feel you can do that with her, cancel the wedding so that your kids do not have to go through another divorce.
2007-11-28 05:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no by all means lie about it...that would make a strong foundation!
Yes, always be upfront and honest with your intentions...if more folks did that, there may be less divorce.
2007-11-28 05:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to tell her some time before the "I DO" day comes along.
2007-11-28 05:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your wish then you should let her know about your plan. This way she can think about it and decide if she would want to lock up with you.
2007-11-28 05:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Tell her immediately .. up front ! Don't wait to do it.
2007-11-28 05:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋