I am going through a divorce and recently moved to a new state to be with family. I am having a hard time adjusting and need to know the best way to meet friends. I am not looking for a relationship, just friends. I have been a mom and wife for the past 10 years and really dont have very many hobbies. ( I kinda lost my identity in this marriage) Please help, dont want to look like a freak asking people to be my friend!!
2007-11-28 04:37:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
join a self help group where there will be others like yourself who have gone through the grief of loosing a mate. they will be more than happy to be your friend and guide u and give u advice. they will act as your support system. it will take a few years but u will begin to feel better after a time. at first its almost as if u feel u don't belong where your at. but did right leaving and u will get a new life. focus on god, not the past. get hobbies, do things that interest u. join a bible study, and helping others less fortunate than u are takes the focus away from u and makes u feel better. take this hurt u have suffered and turn it into something else. in each life there will be trials, but the trials just perfect us, making it easier for us to deal with the other hurts that will come our way in life. just be good to yourself, keep your focus not on your hurt or loss but on god.
2007-11-28 04:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a nasty divorce after catching my wife having sex with another guy. I too moved to a different state to get away and to be near family.
I found the best thing to do is just take one day at a time. Get a new job and maybe take a class or two at a local college.
Eventually things fall back into place and you will meet new people.
Good luck.
2007-11-28 12:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strongly - strongly recommended, go to www.meetup.com and browse using your zipcode of groups, there are groups to just hang out, do some activities, some of them are really cool and I would say the majority are free to join, free to participate and some requires some minimum fees to just keep the website running. There you will meet a group of people all at the same time, without asking, since some will be new the same day you go and will be in the same situation than you, just new in an area trying to do some activities and meet new people. You will be ok and it will be easy and you can find a hobby all at once.
2007-11-28 12:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try picking up something you never got the chance to do when you were married. ie.. a yoga class, dance class. something you're interested in... finding friends with the same interests is the added on bonus :]
if its dance you could just need to "practice" more and if the girl you met wouldn't mind having lunch with you at your house to practice the moves over again. i'm sure you'll teach each other a thing or two and you wont look like a stalker! ps good luck!
2007-11-28 12:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by dontregretwhatmadeusmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting over is never easy and yes, I get where you're coming from, losing yourself in your former marriage, it's time for you to start discovering yourself.
Go back to school, join a church, a health club, do things you couldn't when you were married, even spend time with yourself to figure out what you want.
Don't rush anything, you've got all the time in the world, girl.
2007-11-28 12:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think free chat online will make you better. You can register some ids on dating sites,(I am using interracialfriend.com). The sites have many active and friendly members who are looking for friends, and love.
So when you chat, you even can make a new friends/ love. Best wishes ..
2007-11-28 12:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to meet good people is by going to a Bible believing church. They have many activities for all kinds of people for the young to the youth groups, couples and singles and meetings for adults.
2007-11-28 12:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I think you have to get out and do something.Do you like bowling?? try meetup dot com they have many groups with many interests. I started a scuba diving meetup group and have met some good people. I have been married 11 years and I do not have one male or female friend yet. you just have to start somewhere. Do you go to church?? Find some things you like to do and try to find other who enjoy it also.
2007-11-28 12:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, don't we all. yahoo personals, if you put in you are looking for just Friends you get the friends you want, also, church is a good place, parks and rec is another good one and if you go to the local Visitors- or Commerce Center you can see what things are going to be going on in town and Hunny go to everything, you deserve it.
2007-11-28 12:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your children are still in school, see about joining the local PTA or other activities where you can meet other moms. Join some other organizations for things you may be interested in like church etc. Even going to the library can be helpful to meet local people.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-28 12:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋