Do you have the same experience with white people unfriendly, un-neighborly?

Question

For instants I have lived in predominate white neighborhood, and I notice that even tho I friendly welcome everyone to my home. I have invite guests and share my good cheers with everyone for 14 years I still have no real white friends but I do have asians friends and Hindus friends and Iranian friends and Mexican friends, and African american friends quite easily that I can make these friends, but white americans no matter how much we can have in common, because I am fair brown skin. Made-be they accept one lunch or made-be one dinner. Never really form a friendship with you. I asked other groups of people and they have found the same experience. Even this society have progressively accepted more brown skin people professionally but not on one one basis. You don't see them in malls with this type of friendships or on TV there is still only white shows with only white friendships. Like Friends, the newer shows too like Samatha Who. Seems it on purpose they don't want brown friends.

Answer 1

There is a difference in socail cultural groups. Anglo-saxon caucaisans have never been very social. Ever. They are once they get to know you, but it is ingraned from viking times that you wait to get to know someone and they are not automatically execpting of everyone. That maybe hard for other cultural groups to understand. They are also afraid of how they will be judged by others so they don't engadge in much niegborlly exchanges and then the idea where so many people have become sue happy that has made them fearful.

African-Americans on the whole are culturally more social given how they survive they have to reliy on one another. Even in Africa they are very socail and boistrous. They love drum sounds. Caucasians have a natural aversion toward drum sounds and heavy beats that is why more often than not they do not like rap.

When you come from a mixed culture you may not understand the differences or why people don't act the same. People are culturally wired differently. Even among white families the social structure is different. Children are encouraged to leave and are not welcomed. Caucasians do not invite other caucasians either unless it is a formal invite. So I would not feel bad for the lack of comunication. Because even after fourteen years it is hard to have a relationship with territorial creatures.

I am caucasian that is the way it is in my neighborhood not my church. We go to an abnormally social church where people hug and are more like family. It is hard for people to step out of bounds. Because in the world if you step out of your comfort zone you might get hurt. It is out of fear that people don't say hello. I almost married an African man, but socially we would not have been accepted and our children would not have been accepted. Yet we both grew up in the country and had cows and liked the same things. He had a good heart and was lots of fun. We were from opposite sides of the world. At school we were called twins and oddly we looked simular, but we were not accepted. So I left and went back to my comfort zone. But people do alot of things out of fear and a lack of understanding. Don't feel bad if people are not always friendly. Sometimes it's just fear that does it.

Answer 2

I think it really depends on what type of neighborhood you live in. I've experienced unfriendly white neighbors and non white. The older people in my parents neighborhood who are older were more friendly and open. Everybody knew everyone. Now since some of the older people have moved out, and newer, younger people have moved in, it changed. I don't know hardly anyone there anymore. When I wave, they just blatantly ignore me and act like they didn't see me when I know they did. I think people in general are just changing because the world is becoming more dangerous. People are just more cautious, and it really doesn't have a whole lot to do with race at all. If you invited me over for dinner, I'd come! : )

Answer 3

Tough question. I am white and I have neighbors who are African American, Asian, Mexican. We are all friendly but really even though we try to befriend the African Americans they never really join us at block parties and gatherings we have. They are nice but tend to stick with other AAs really. The others always show up and we are friends with them. I guess it depends on the individuals. People tend to stick to others like them. Go to any school or work place lunch room and you always see the Asians at a table with other Asians, AAs at a table with other AAs, Whites at tables with other Whites. There are exceptions but mostly that is just what each group prefers.

Answer 4

I grew up in a pretty wealthy, all-white neighborhood...and I am half-Mexican. I always had a hard time making friends, and I never really thought it was because of my heritage, I just felt that they were rich snobs, and their parents were less restrictive on curfews and parties than my Catholic mom. It could be any reason-culture, family traditions, or simply personality-that it is hard for you to make friends with white people.

But, if you just keep being yourself, you will find people that care about you, not your skin color. In fact, I think that all those people of other cultures that you have befriended are far more interesting than those snobby white kids. Just think of the places they have been, they foods they have tried, and the different customs they have!

Who need those boring snots, anyways?

Answer 5

I have had that experience. I'm from Mexican origins but my skin is very white, so most white people are shocked when they find out that I'm Mexican. And they do tend to keep me at arms-length, so to speak. I have lots of friends from other backgrounds thou.
As for TVs influence, my friends and I support Scrubs, I think is one of the few shows that portrays interracial relationships in a good way.

Answer 6

On behalf of white americans since I am one, I apologize. Biggotry is real. I personally do not agree with it. I have no problems with any particular race/creed/color. I judge people by who they are not what they are. But I do know that the problem is not only real, it is also widespread. I think the media, TV/Radio/newspapers, keep this kind of thing going. I wished you were my neighbor. I would show you that it doesn't matter to all white americans. I know people like me are in the minority though, and for that all I can say is sorry.

Answer 7

Im white, and I definitely notice white people are unsociable and cold compared with Latins and other races who are friendly and hospitable to everybody. White people just don't do that, its like we keep our guard up all the time or just dont care because we're selfish.

Answer 8

I personally would have no issues with having friends and maintaining relationships with non-whites; I never have. People are people. However, also on the same aspect of the TV shows you mentioned, there are also all black casts as well, so would it be true on that end?

Besides, we are in a culture and society nowadays where everyone is rude to everyone (not always) and suspicious of each other's actions (no thanks to the government and media for perpetuating that).

Find people who are worth your time and effort, who genuinely enjoy spending time with you, and stop fretting about those who don't. Their loss.

Answer 9

I think it just depends on which part of the country you live in. White people are more accepting in some other areas of the country. That's a real shame.

Answer 10

I really dont know what to say. Ive gotten that reaction from many different people and backgrounds. And Im Hispanic. Im not loud, I dont have an attitude, Im not a snob or anything like that. Im actually friendly and very easy to get along with. But like I said it happens with all kinds of people. Who knows