I m totally depressed now a days not well from within my mind is killing me slowly.help me out?

Question

I speak lot of false statements in my whole day but not to hurt anyone but to just make everyone laugh but now everyone feels I m bad guy and no one bothers of me I speak lie to forget my tensions and show as if I m happy this brings some kind of jerk in my life but still when anyone gives me no respect then I get nervous thinking I m really a bad guy I want to live happily with everyone but Its my mind or something else that I dont know but I m afraid of my parents, my surroundings. I just m not living my life in my own way feeling I will lose everything

Answer 1

aww, hey we all go through depressing times in our life. try these to work out your depression

1. Live more in the moment
Thinking about the past or the future is what we get anxious about. Rarely do we panic about the present moment. If you find yourself dwelling on something that either has already happened or has yet to occur, remind yourself that the only thing you have control over is the present. That's really the only thing that counts. Be proactive and avoid seeing yourself as a victim of circumstance, Dennis says. "You can't sit around waiting for someone to do something good for you. If you want something out of life you need to get out and get it."

2. Practise positive affirmation
Tell yourself you are strong, says Dennis. Practise saying positive things about yourself over and over and over. In the morning, wake up and say something positive. Have that be your very first thought of the day. Even if you don't believe it, or if it's a harried Monday morning and you've woken up late for work, starting your day off with a positive affirmation will help set up your day on a good note.

3. Believe in the power of positive thinking
This one may seem pretty obvious, but it's one that many people overlook. If you think positively, positive things will happen. "It's a universal law, just like gravity," Dennis says. Alternatively, if you are constantly thinking negative thoughts, don't be surprised when negative things happen. It takes a tremendous amount of work to change our thinking to a positive frame of mind, but it's worth all the effort, she says. "If you tell yourself your life is bad, it will be. It's that simple."
4. Don't dwell
Look at what's upsetting you, fix it and move on. If it's already happened, you unfortunately can't go back and change it, so dwelling on it and lamenting about what could or should have been is a waste of time and energy and just makes you feel worse about yourself. Accept whatever it is that happened and then move forward, Dennis says. It's amazing how light you will feel after dropping some of your emotional baggage.

5. Focus on the positive
Start a gratitude journal, Dennis suggests. Whether in the morning or at night -- or both -- jot down five or six things you are grateful for. They can be big or small or something as simple as "It was sunny out today" or "I had a great lunch." As long you do it on a regular, consistent basis it can help shift your negative thinking to positive. Whenever you're feeling low, go back and read your journal to reaffirm all the great things you have in your life. When we feel negative we have a tendency to forget all about what we already have and focus instead on what we don't.

6. Get moving
Exercise is paramount for feeling good because it releases endorphins, Dennis says. Whether its a walk around the block or a 10-kilometre run, activity makes us feel good in spite of ourselves. Chances are, if you're feeling low and you do even 15 minutes of activity, you'll feel better afterwards.

7. Face the fear
Negativity comes from fear, Dennis explains. "The more afraid of life you are, the more negative you tend to be." If you fear something, do it anyway. Fear is a part of life, whether we like it or not, but we all have a choice as to whether to let it stop us. Facing our fears helps to build self-esteem.

8. Try new things
Being open to trying new things also helps to build self-esteem, Dennis explains. By saying yes to life you are giving yourself more opportunity to grow and learn. Avoid the "yes, but" mentality. New experiences, big or small, help make life more exciting and provide fulfilment.

9. Shift your perspective
When something doesn't go well, find a way to reframe it in a more positive perspective. "In every challenge there's a gift, and in every gift there's a challenge," Dennis explains. Even though it can be very difficult, try to look at the good that can come from challenges. Otherwise, it's very easy to sink into despair or sadness. Do whatever you can to stay positive when times are tough.

Answer 2

Four suggestions:

1) Buy the book called "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David D. Burns. This book will help you to recognize false thoughts and change the way you think.

2) Buy the DVD called "The Secret". This DVD will help you to change your thoughts and feelings.

3) Ask your friends to anonymously critique you and tell you what they see as your positive qualities and what they see as your negative qualities. Have them type them up on a computer and seal it in a blank envelope. Then have one friend collect all of the critiques and give them to you all at one time. You will not know what critique came from what friend. Once you have read all of them, take to heart the positives that your friends see in you and make it a point to work on the negative qualities your friends see in you. You can even share the negative qualities with your friends and ask them to help you when you slip into these negative qualities.

4) Seek professional help. While it is generally best not to be on medication, sometimes it is what you need to get over the hump.

Good luck and all the best to you.

Answer 3

Thats normal, stop worrying about what everybody else thinks if you keep that up your just hurting yourself in the long run, If they can't understand then their not true friends anyways, Who wants that.. I would want a friend who like me for who i am thats it not for somebody else.. I can understand wanting friends but i guess they will come to you or you well just know who that person is.. For the depressed, YOu can go to a doctor they can help you with that.. If you tell them whats going on you don't have to tell them everything..
If you need to talk am a good listern, you can yahoo messenger me if you want to, [e-mail]..
I wish you luck, hope everything works out for you..