on Christmas eve? I have made a cd with all of his favorite songs and I will have food that I know he likes. I think it would be good to have our family together for the night. My sister and her family will be there and I know they miss him also. The only problem is that he has remarried and I wouldn't want her to come along.
2007-11-28 03:30:59 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's pretty rude...you either invite her too, or don't invite them at all...he has his new life now...are you trying to get him back, or something?
2007-11-28 03:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Oyster Kel 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to your ex and tell him that you want him to have dinner with you and your kids. Tell him that you dont want the new wife coming along and it would mean alot to the kids. If he feel uncomfortable then extend the invitation to the new wife. Who knows maybe she wont want to come. Then just bite your tounge for the night and realize how many people you are making happy by having him there even if you are a bit unhappy because the new wife is there. You might have to scrafice some things for the kids... think about it. DITCH THE CD. Play some christmas favorites that your kids will like.
2007-11-28 03:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be appropriate at all. For whatever reason, you are not married anymore and he has remarried. That is who he should spend his holidays with (as well as the kids at the arranged times). There is no way in hell I would let my husband go to his ex's, much less with out me. In turn, I would not invite my married ex (regardless of feelings I may or may not have) to a dinner. Not a good idea. It would cause problems for you ex and his wife. I could cause problems between your ex and the kids if the ex refuses to come and the kids don't understand why he won't come. They could think he is choosing his wife over them. As an adult, you should know that is just a terrible situation to try and put someone in. It also sounds like you want him back.
2007-11-28 03:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would say NO!
THis is a guy you divorced and he has moved on and remarried he has probably got plans to spend it with his family and his new wife or with her family. Maybe if you wanted this then you should have thought about that before you ended your marriage to him.
If you invite him she must be included she is his new wife and well the most important part of his new life without you.
You cannot be selfish and well a prude. I bet if the tables were turned you wouldn't even acknowledge an invitation from him if he told you your new husband was not allowed to come.
2007-11-28 03:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. If his current wife coming would be tough much for you then no he shouldn't come. The thing is he is remarried and you have to respect that no matter what it would be wrong for you to tell him to come and leave her at home, also it would be childish. You need to cope with him being remarried because i can tell you haven't, forgive and forget are powerful and true words. It will only hurt you in the end and you won't be able to be happy and do the things you want or need to do. I hope and pray that you make the right decision and you have a blessed day.
2007-11-28 03:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you invite him, you need to invite his wife. My mom often invited my dad to things, including christmas breakfast. he is still part of the family even though you are divorced. That's great that you are on good terms and can do things like that. But especially on christmas eve, i'm sure he'd want to be with is wife.
Is this someone you want back? I think that making a cd for him and making his favorite foods is a bit suggestive. Invite him to dinner, but make sure to include his new family. He will appreciate it that much more.
2007-11-28 03:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This will just cause heart ache for you....He has moved on and you need to also. I don't think its healthy for your kids either. They know you aren't together anymore and this may give them false hopes and really confuse them. This isn't right in any case. So you invite the whole family or none at all. Besides the fact he may not come...and I'm sure this would hurt his wife. I don't know if you are trying to get him back..but bringing back old memories probably won't do it...Now if he wanted to be with you thats another story..but you would have to do the right thing and if he wasn't happy with the new wife..he would need to make the right choice...
2007-11-28 03:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jill L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all sounds great -except for the not inviting his new wife part. That spoils the whole idea. It probably just might be a better idea for the kids to go and spend some seperate time with their dad at some point around the holidays. -And who knows, maybe someday down the road you will all be able to enjoy a holiday meal together -new wife included. Who knows, maybe you'll have a new husband to balance it all out.
2007-11-28 03:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you have a big problem on your hands. He has a new wife. Of course he'll want to be with her on Christmas Eve. You're playing his favorite music and making all the foods he likes. Are you trying to get him back or just trying to let your kids have both parents on Christmas Eve? If it's the latter, you'll have to smile, be nice, and be pleasant to the new wife.
2007-11-28 03:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love great music and great food as much as the next guy, but the reason for your divorce from him is a big factor here. Was it because of the kids and he doesn't want anything to do with them? If so then don't bet on him wanting to come around. If he can stand the kids and stand you, then it's just a matter of if his new wife is ok with it, and how much that matters to him. I always consider Christmas to be a time of forgiveness and redemption, so good luck!
2007-11-28 03:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by jmattiesmufc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is remarried then you can invite them as a couple or just dont invite him. Not good etiquette. You say youve made a cd of his fav songs & your cooking his fav foods? How long have you been divorced? You may not be totally over him yet, especially if you arent wanting to invite the new wife.
2007-11-28 03:36:49 · answer #11 · answered by Chantilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋